Letting go

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Sometimes we hold onto people, and other things in our life so tightly making it very difficult to let go. We believe we are in control only to wake up to feelings of despair, pain and hopelessness.

Just imagine having a tug of war, with you holding onto a rope as tight as you can on one end and the stresses in your life on the other. Who do you think will win that war? At some point, you have to learn to let go. Otherwise the struggles you are carrying will take you down to a life of misery.

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What makes you feel alive?

 

Have you figured out what makes you really feel alive? Feeling alive is about feeling alert, active and passionate about the life you are living. Maybe you are on automatic pilot with everyday life while forgetting what it means to be alive. Feeling alive is not merely just existing.

leio-mclaren-307277Sometimes we need to take a step back to refuel and assess the life we are living. We are so inundated with trying to make a living and taking care of our families that we forget what it means to really be alive.

The last couple of years has been a little rough so I can honestly say I was guilty of living a life that lacked any luster. Sometimes life experiences can knock you off your feet. When you finally get up, you realize you’ve been in a zombie like state going through the motions but not really living.

costa-rica-318904_1280This year, I was fortunate to be able to go on two separate vacations. One in Central America and the other in the Caribbean. I was blessed and for the first time in a very long time, I had more clarity about the life I want to live. Being in a tropical environment and connecting to nature made me feel so alive that I may consider making it my future home.

What makes me feel alive is living a simpler life and shedding all the stuff which we believe will make us happy. I was fortunate to meet  several people on my journey who were more contented with a lot less. They are not living in bondage married to things. Their concern is more about surviving, feeling alive while living for today.

What makes you feel alive? 

It’s different for everyone and can be as simple as listening to your favorite music. At times laughing at a comedy show. Taking time out to refuel and distress while taking a walk or going on a hike through a forest. Exerting energy makes one feel alive. Maybe you love to go dancing, watching raindrops fall on a rainy day or going out to eat at your favorite restaurants with good friends. I love singing and dancing to my favorite tunes. Whatever your definition of feeling alive, it’s what makes life more enjoyable.

262H (1)Being alive means literally that you’re not dead. Sometimes we live like the walking dead rather than the undead, consumed by our negative thoughts and emotions about the life we are living. Maybe its time to reflect and consider a life more engaging with what makes us feel more human.  What really matters is the quality of life, not the quantity of what we have which weighs us down like an anchor on a boat.

Challenge your thinking and find different ways to feel more alive. This is what living is all about, implementing small changes, taking risks, in order to increase the feeling of being more alive.

What makes you feel alive? Please leave a comment..

 

 

Soak in the Sunshine

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Let your mind soak in the sunshine.

Don’t let it chase after the rain.

A sea of negative thoughts which fuels

negative emotions.

Sometimes resulting in unfavorable behavior patterns and

creating false beliefs of who you really are.

Dark clouds will come and dark clouds will go but

remember there is always sunshine after the rain.

Hold On, turn it off,

find happy distractions.

Good feelings of love, peace and joy,

pointing you in a new direction.

Express your creativity in unusual ways.

See yourself beyond the darkness,

beyond the pain.

where opportunity resides for change.

Saturate your mind and soak in the sunshine,

create harmony and believe light always

overcomes darkness.

Pat Fagan

 

 

 

 

Life at a Glance

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Are you living the life you were meant to live? These are Photos taken on the Island of Dominica. I recently spent two weeks on this island and I was inspired by its natural beauty.

20170526_135530 I was born here many years ago and came to America at the age of two. To be honest, I have visited Dominica, several years ago, but this time seemed so different. The mountains seemed larger covered from top to bottom with coconut, bamboo, and other trees which are indigenous to this island. As I looked at the sky, the color was bluer than blue. You can also smell the freshness of the Atlantic and Caribbean Ocean. The colors of the flowers, plants and trees had an intensity I hadn’t noticed before. Beautiful homes in colors of bright orange, yellow and greens added a wonderful dimension to the landscape.

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As I observed everything around me, I was amazed I hadn’t payed much attention in previous trips to this island. Why was this time so different? Then I realized I was older and looked at life very different from my younger days. I no longer took life for granted but embraced each day as if it was my last.

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I met people who had given up their busy life in their perspective countries for a much slower and simpler life in Dominica. I pondered about my life and wondered if I had what it takes to change my current lifestyle, for life in a smaller country. What we give up is all the stuff we’ve accumulated over the years and certain amenities that smaller countries can’t provide. 

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Are we living the life we were meant to live? Sometimes I wonder because since childhood, our life has become more complicated as we continue to chase the almighty dollar.  Was this what God had in mind when he placed us here on earth? If I remember correctly, he placed us in the Garden of Eden, a paradise similar to the island of Dominica but much, much better. I guess I will hold these thoughts captive and contemplate what I should do in the coming years.

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When it comes to you, my suggestion if you are not interested in moving to any other country in the future, at least make time to connect with nature no matter where you are. It will make a world of difference when considering the life you are living.

 

 

 

THE BLAME GAME

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I saw you hit a curb one day

and as I looked the other way,

all I heard you say

It’s your fault I did what I did

and I live as I live because

All your life, you found no other way

While playing the blame game.

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Tic Tac Toe

There is no place to go

If you keep playing the blame game

Blaming this for that is not where it’s at

You will never be a diplomat

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Here you go again blaming others all your life

which is a bad habit to keep alive

Accepting responsibility for your own actions

will point you in the right direction

 

Change your projection

Stand up and realize in life at any given time

Things may go wrong

But blaming others will lead to a life

full of rejection

 

Stop, look listen and learn

There is a better way to turn

I know you find it hard to let go

Blaming others for life’s problems is all that you know

 

If you continue to live this way all of your life

It will only lead to a life filled with strife

If you dedicate your life to changing this behavior

You will not feel like a failure

But an individual

who is taking charge of their life

When they stop playing the blame game.

 

This is dedicated to people who find it very difficult to accept responsibility for the problems in their life.  Blaming others is not the answer. There is always hope if you have the desire to change your circumstances.

 

 

Do it your way

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SUCCESS

Do it your way….

Setting goals and trying to be like the over achievers in our world is not for everyone. Success comes in many forms and it can be as simple as doing something you’ve never done before.

Do it your way and on your own terms. You’re the only one who can define what being successful means to you. If you try to live your life based on other people’s opinion of what your life should be, you will live a life of disappointment.

Find the truth of what being successful means to you as an individual. Stop trying to be someone who doesn’t feel comfortable in their own skin because of social pressures. The world’s view of being successful does not dictate who we are or what kind of life we would like to live in the future. We all have a different road to travel which will take us to our ultimate destination.

What does success look like for you?

 

 

Killer Hill

killer hill 3.jpg It was a beautiful spring morning and as I cruised through my neighborhood, I drove passed killer hill. I call it killer hill because when my children was very small, I decided it would be an adventure for us to take a nice long walk. Big mistake! As we approached the third block, there was grumbling and complaining and I had to try to carry them the rest of the way. Needless to say, I almost didn’t make it myself. It was really exhausting to say the least and I thought I was in shape. Ha!

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Well, this morning as I went past killer hill, I saw an elderly man who was short, bending over because he couldn’t stand up straight with a walking cane, slowly walking up killer hill. He looked like he was in his late eighties with a scruffy white beard.

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As I gazed at him with complete admiration, I began to imagine what his life was like before he got to this stage. Besides putting me to shame, walking up that hill, he had a past history that we will never completely know or understand.

What we can deduct is the commonalities from all our lives. He was someones child, educated through our school system in some capacity, worked in order to support himself and or family and went through good times and bad. I wondered if he ever served in the army. What else defined this man’s life? I began to think into the future and what my life would look like once I got to his age.

Life is short and getting shorter

Life is really short, and the quality of life getting shorter everyday. Anything can go wrong along the way. But what I admired about this man is his ability to stand up and walk even with his disabilities. Its easier to sit down and do nothing rather than stand up to do something. Will I have the desire, strength or motivation to follow his lead in spite of my age? Or will I sit down and play dead.

What I learned from this experience is to learn to enjoy each day to its fullest. While you have good health and youth on your side, don’t squander it on foolishness. Make everyday count for today is given and tomorrow is not promised. Dream and live your dreams and may your yesterdays yield better tomorrows.