Refreshing your New Years Resolution

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Do you know where you’re going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to.. do you know?

That was the theme song from the movie Mahogany starring Diana Ross and Billy Dee Williams written several years ago. It’s still relevant even today.

When Diana Ross sang that song, I was hooked and I began to ask my younger self some of these serious life questions.

You might as well say it motivated me to change the course of my life.

Now that my kids are grown, and life is moving in another direction, I’m beginning to ask myself the same hard questions.
Do you know where you’re going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to..Do you know?

Refreshing your Resolutions

What is it about the New Year which gets us all so excited?

A New year prepares our hearts and minds to rethink the past year and to make new changes for the coming year.

The old year is gone with whatever positive or negative experiences we had along the way. It’s time to wake up and be optimistic about a better and brighter future.

We pray and believe this is the year our life is going to change. For a very small percentage of people, with a real sense of purpose, they go from being a caterpillar into a butterfly.

Statistically speaking, 97% of the population make New Years Resolutions and never follow through on their intended goals.
Why do we even bother making resolutions of we don’t intend to keep it?

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It’s like running a race. Ready, Set, Go! In the beginning of the year we’re so excited to make changes. Somewhere between the starting and finish line, our goals begin to fade.

I understand because I’ve also been down that road many times and I’ve made some progress. Honestly, I’m still not where I would like to be because I’m still working on my dream.

I’ll tell you something else you already know…

Life will never change unless you decide to make a change. It’s much easier to give up rather than to keep going.

Year after year, you may find yourself in the same place you were the year before. Your New Years resolution may look like this.

1. Lose weight

2. Exercise…Join a Gym

3. Start a Business

This is merely an example, however ask yourself this question. How did my life change in 2018? What worked or didn’t work?
How can I challenge myself to get to the finish line?
It’s time to refresh your resolutions and make the necessary changes in order to succeed.

  • Keep it simple…A long list of resolutions overwhelms one state of mind. So therefore keep it short and simple.
  • Setting goals…break your 2-3 goals into workable small steps. Taking smaller steps will keep you on track. For example, if you intend on losing 50lbs this year, don’t try to do it all at once. Try 1lb a week which is workable. There are 52 weeks in a year. Even with some cheating you are sure on your way to completing your goal. Worst case scenario you lose 25lbs, but it’s still an accomplishment.
  • Day timer…Make a schedule of your goals along with your usual daily routine in the same book. This will allow you to keep a good balance between home and your personal goals without over extending yourself.
  • Be consistent…Follow through and be consistent in your actions. If you start one day and continue a month later or not at all, that will set you back. You will find yourself struggling to start again and you might quit in the process. Think about how many people sign up for a gym memberships and quit within a very short period of time. Consistency is the key to making progress that drives and motivates you to completing your goal. It’s like driving a car, if you don’t put your foot on the gas pedal, the car isn’t going anywhere.
  • Permission…Give yourself permission to skip days in between without feeling guilty. That’s your treat and cheat day. Then stay on track. The main thing is that you don’t give up and you hold on in order to accomplish your goal.
  • Visualize…See yourself finishing your race and all the perks that will come with it whether its financial freedom, free time or a great vacation.
  • The sky is the limit… This is your year to move in the direction of your intended goals for your life. Stay on track and keep moving forward. I know it’s easier to give up rather than to keep going. Tell yourself by this time next year I will be……..
  • Take action…Refuse to stand still in the same place year after year. refresh revitalize, and restore your intended goals.

Don’t live your life adding to the pile of lost dreams for another year. I know you will succeed if you do not quit. I’m rooting for you as well as myself.. Yes we can!

Soak in the Sunshine

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Let your mind soak in the sunshine.

Don’t let it chase after the rain.

A sea of negative thoughts which fuels

negative emotions.

Sometimes resulting in unfavorable behavior patterns and

creating false beliefs of who you really are.

Dark clouds will come and dark clouds will go but

remember there is always sunshine after the rain.

Hold On, turn it off,

find happy distractions.

Good feelings of love, peace and joy,

pointing you in a new direction.

Express your creativity in unusual ways.

See yourself beyond the darkness,

beyond the pain.

where opportunity resides for change.

Saturate your mind and soak in the sunshine,

create harmony and believe light always

overcomes darkness.

Pat Fagan

 

 

 

 

Everyone has a Story

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I met a stranger in the most unlikely of places who began to tell me her life’s story. She started by asking me my opinion of a designer fringed handbag she was thinking about purchasing. Her personal style is to dress more like the 60’s, a Hippie era of peace signs, bright colors and bands like the Beatles and Jimmy Hendrix. She wanted to stay true to who she is regardless of what’s going on in the Fashion Industry even if fringe was going out of style.

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We were able to connect on an emotional level and she felt quite comfortable opening up to tell me her story. She started by sharing the fact that Jesus is her lord and savior and that he saved her from many negative life experiences.

Her Story

At a very young age, she was placed in a mental institution for a short time. As she grew older, she was in an abusive relationship and finally ended it in order to save her life.  To add to her tragic life story, she was almost raped by a complete stranger. She asked me to open my mouth and share her story because she attributes her new-found life of happiness due to the saving grace of Jesus.

I felt so sorry, as I listened to her story, but there is hope in the end, she found Jesus and was happy filled with life again.

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We are not alone

Everyone has a story to tell, a tapestry filled with pain and suffering and some experiences we would rather choose to forget. We believe we are the only ones having such a difficult time. However we are not alone in the agony of life. When you hear another persons story, worst than what you’re presently experiencing, I don’t know about you, but I just want to shut up, no need to complain and thank God for his unmerited favor.

There is another side where love and happiness abides woven in the midst of all that we’ve experienced along the way. But although this tapestry is tattered and torn and perhaps weathered from the many storms, it survived and made us all into the persons we are today.

We are men and women of character not defeated by our stories as we continue to endure our life experiences. There is always a new chapter to be written of hope, lessons learned and change that brings light in spite of darkness which will lose in the end.

Nuggets of Truth: More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.

Romans 5:3-5

A New Year

Wishing you all the best for 2017 and the years to come

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Life can definitely be a challenge from year to year as different trials and tribulations make up the fabric of our lives. But there is always hope for better tomorrows. As we move towards a new year, I pray for blessings for you and your family. Thanks to all of those who supported me in the past and to all the new supporters who will read my blog in the future. May God bless you.

Step into the Light

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Brighter than Stars

As new as can be

We are all on a journey

To be all we can be

Stepping into the light

And out of the darkness

Which seeks to divide

And bring nothing but sadness

Looking up to they sky

Fighting hard to survive

Seeking, always searching

To understand why

Giving thanks and praise

To a God who’s familiar

with all our ways

As we boldly step into the light above

To a God who’s always

filled with love

He Lifted us up from impossibilities

To an incredible world

Of numerous possibilities

Open our eyes, open our heart

Help us to be, all we can be

Stepping into the light

And out of the darkness

We look up and not down

No longer looking

Towards the Madness.

 

 

 

Zest for Life

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Having zest for life means you live with great enthusiasm and energy. For the majority of my life, that rings true. Most people who know me will probably describe me as a person who always has a smile on her face. Another attribute is I am generally enthusiastic about life. But we all have our moments when life is not always what it seems.

I remember when I was in college and life was beautiful. On my 23rd birthday, I broke into tears because I was older than some of the other students. I laugh about it today because next month, I will be a couple of decades older. Now I’m beginning to reflect on my future goals. What can I to do to live a more productive life?  I’ve been told, “I have more yesterdays than tomorrows.”

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We all can become worn out by a world which dictates the roll we play everyday. Why are we so concerned and distraught about all the other issues which sometimes shows up along the way? Life can become very challenging and plain old complicated. Your zest for life can be gone in a flash. Look out, be aware and hold every thought captive which drags you down.

There is always a glimmer of hope. In God we trust to help us through the tough times. Believe God will guide you back to having that zest for life. We’ve all been there many times and thank God, it doesn’t last forever.

This is the perfect time to regroup, reassess, and recapture your zest for life.  Redefine what makes you tick. What motivates you and brings you joy? Discard the thoughts which don’t serve you at this point of your life. Fight and replace negative paralyzing thoughts for positive affirmations. Get back that enthusiasm and energy that made you ecstatic.

Nugget of truth: Your personal success in life no matter where you are depends on you.

My Mother Dearest

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I almost lost my mother recently. After being rushed to the hospital, she was diagnosed with a stroke. Mom’s been battling her illnesses for many years, and little by little its been taking a toll on her body. My mom is a fighter and thank God for it, as she is slowly pulling through this last bombardment to her body. We take so much in life for granted. What if mom didn’t survive this incident? Continue reading “My Mother Dearest”