Are you kidding me?

photo-1585850417478-cf203b4ac9b1You want to do what? Did you say open up the country on May 1, while we’re still counting the dead. Are we really ready to put people at risk of getting Covid-19?photo-1584556812933-8e6faeb93a21I just stocked up on all this toilet tissue, now what…

Seriously, what the heck is going on?

Do we have proper guidelines in place where we can feel comfortable going back to a sense of normalcy?

Even with some guidelines, it will be a false sense of security. I guess we all have to wait and see…

I believe this is going to take time. No one feels safe enough to go back to work, let alone social un-distancing during this outbreak.

We have been programmed to separate, wear masks, and fear for our lives. Now before this virus is a blip on the screen, we are talking about opening the country.photo-1584036561584-b03c19da874cThere is so much we don’t know about this virus. We are still learning more everyday.

I get it… it’s a matter of economics.

It won’t be easy to resume our economies without having massive negative impacts across the globe.

What if things progress where there are more fatalities because we went back too early?

Keep in mind, there are no vaccines to date. And no one really knows when this will be a reality.

This Pandemic is going to be here for the forseeable future. Unless we can get it under control, it will continue to be part of our world.

So are we really willing to put people at risk?

I ,for one, am not comfortable going back into the workplace so soon. Therefore, before I put my family at risk, I may have to make a personal decision as to the best way to proceed.

My job consists of working around alot of people all the time. I have no problem in going back when things change for the better but not right now, I won’t feel safe.

We all have to make our own decision as to the best way to proceed. Financially, it’s very difficult for people to stay out of work indefinitely.

We all have responsibilities which weighs very heavily on our minds if it’s not dealt with in a timely manner.

The pressure of not being able to pay your bills or put food on the table is enormous.

I understand! However, our safety as well as our family is extremely important.

What should you do?

Be cautious yet optimistic about the future.

Our leaders are trying to come up with a gameplan. We all have to decide if we are willing to take the chance to go back to our jobs, schools, or businesses.

The testing phase might help if everyone gets tested. At least you have a sense of comfort. But there are not enough test kits to go around at this time.

Unless our government can get this under control, we will be swimming in the unknown for a very long time.

Don’t get me wrong, I am so tired of being quarrantined..

This is a matter of life and death. Safety for all of our families is at a crossroad.

We have been told by the media to stay indoors. Is it in the air?

Now without having assurance that the spread is contained, they are considering opening the country by the end of the month

I guess I will wait to see what happens before I venture out….

What do you think?

 

 

A Perfect Fit

photo-1491438590914-bc09fcaaf77aARE YOU STILL TRYING TO FIT IN?

Why do we torture ourselves this way?

When we were younger, I believe we all did it at some point to connect with our peers at school.

Somehow it continued to be a part of who we are in terms of forming friendship with others to be part of a group.

But there are times when we may not be a perfect fit and honestly, it’s okay…

Human beings always had a desire to fit in or find their tribe in order to feel whole. I guess it gave us a sense of belonging wherever we went.

For those who didn’t fit in they felt like loners or outsiders.

So fitting in has always been a big deal.

But as you grow older, wiser and more intuned with who you are as a person,  the need to fit in takes on a different meaning.

Being confident and accepting yourself is the first step to letting go of the tribal mentality.

You don’t always have to fit in, the key is to try to get along and build a good relationship with those you may come in contact with at home, work, or play.

A perfect fit is a misinterpretation of the reality of life.

None of us are truly perfect, but we are perfect for the friends, associates and family we interact with who accept us just as we are with all our warts.

Who cares about the people who has no real desire to connect.

You are better off leaving them alone because they will only make life more miserable.

Life is about building relationships with others whether family, friends or new people you may meet who has a genuine interest in you as a person.

WORKPLACE

We all know about the culture on the job and how we all try to fit in with our coworkers.

Sometimes it may be toxic and yet you may find coworkers you may connect with and have a sense of belonging…

Fitting in is not the answer to getting along at work. Building positive relationships is much more valuable.

My experience

I have been on my job for several years, and have met many people from all walks of life.

When I first started, I tried fitting into the work culture and personalities I met along the way.

Since it was a very competitive environment, people were very disengaged with anyone who they considered to be a threat of being a top producer.

I experienced that when their were people deliberately trying to sabotage my success.

So just imagine trying to be a perfect fit in that environment. It doesn’t work so the best way I coped with the situation was to continue to be the best version of myself.

I connected on so many levels with people who saw me as a valuable asset and we continue to maintain that relationship years later.

I also have a coworker on my job who in my opinion has trouble with others.. so I try to stay away from her as much as possible.

My clients tend to give me compliments and gifts. Her jealousy was very pervasive this year and she showed her true colors.

Her negative energy reminds me this is someone I need to stay away from as much as possible.

She obviously is not a perfect fit and we will not be able to connect on any level even though I’ve tried for several years.

My advice

In this short life we live in you have to find the people who will impact your life in a positive manner.

If you are trying to hard in order to be that perfect fit in a friendship or relationship with someone and you feel like you’re spinning your wheels and going nowhere give it up.

It’s not going to work with people who have bad attitudes or no real desire to connect.

Save your time for people that really matters…

Find people which will bring positive energy into the equation.

It doesn’t pay to waste your time trying to fit into relationships that just doesn’t work.

Simply put, it’s a waste of time…

Accept yourself for who you are, Find the people who sees your worth and there you will find the perfect fit for your life.

Just remember, none if us are perfect and trying to fit into scenarios that hurt us rather than help us is not smart.

Don’t torture yourself trying to fit into a situation that will make you unhappy.

You have to love yourself first,  accept yourself for who you are..

Only then will you be able to connect with others who you can build a real friendship and grow your relationship.

 

Are you working with the right attitude?

Before the morning shift of workers arrived for the morning, I was sitting in a hospital waiting room in Long Island.

They came in one by one, Doctors, Nurses, restaurant workers and others. However you couldn’t tell who was who until they took their coats off and reported to their various assignments.

I was sitting near the bathroom. A woman approached with a smile on her face and a cart filled with cleaning supplies.

We spoke briefly and her infectious smile made me feel very comfortable.

That particular morning, among other things, the bathroom looked like someone had a party with toilet tissue tossed all over the floor.

Her responsibility was to clean all the bathrooms in the hospital. I’m sure she’s seen some horror shows in their over the years.

I felt empathy for her as I realized all the hard work she had to do in this one bathroom that particular morning.

In my opinion, she had one of the toughest jobs that most of us would cringe at if we had to do it in order to survive.

However she probably doesn’t get the credit she deserves.

We compliment people on a higher pay scale and forget the ones who are clearly working just as hard.

Some of us complain about our jobs…I get it.

Trust me, I am not where I want to be but in reality alot of us could say the same thing.

Working with the right attitude

This woman made me want to shut up and put up with a job which may not be living up to my expectations.

How would you like to get up everyday knowing the job you’re going to requires cleaning bathrooms in a hospital all day?

I don’t believe for a moment this woman is living her dreams but doing whatever it takes in order to take care of her family.

What amazed me even more as I observed her was her pleasant attitude and relationship towards her coworkers.

I thought about this woman as I left the hospital. For some reason I couldn’t stop thinking about her pleasant demeanor as she continued to do her job.

A LESSON LEARNED

“Whatever you do, work heartily at it for the Lord and not for Men.”

Col 3:23

I met this woman in the most unlikely of places and I learned a valuable lesson that day. She exuded the right attitude according to God’s word.

There are many people who work at these jobs everyday. We see them at work and other places cleaning up the mess that was left behind.

But do we really see them…..

What we fail to realize, everyone has a role to play in this life. One person is not better than the other because of there job status.

In my opinion, most the people I’ve met who are doing these jobs are very pleasant.

How we treat and respect each other in our humanity matters.

When was the last time you even gave a thought or said a kind word to any of these workers?

CONCLUSION

Learn to appreciate where you are, be thankful for what you have and be kind to others who are not where they want to be.

It’s important to have the right attitude no matter where you are or what you’re doing.

The wrong attitude will stress you out.

For all those who are doing the most unlikely of jobs with the right attitude, I salute you.

Imagine

diana-simumpande-197805-unsplashA fantasy world exists in my mind as I close my eyes to the complex world around me.

I imagine unspoiled rainforests with lush vegetation and cascading waterfalls untouched by the footprints of man. 

Beaches with waters as blue-green as a turquoise gem.  The grains of sand like the color of an almond.

There was a ripple of excitement which filled my spirit as I strolled along this unknown and untapped sandy beach that stretched for miles in either direction.

A desperation of freedom sweeps across my mind hoping to escape the clutches of this world filled with pain and confusion.

I struggle to find the things in this life which make life more palatable as I envision this life filled with so much inspiration.

I’m temporary released from the stresses of life that continuously invades my space.

Even for a brief moment in time, I find peace and serenity as I visualize this new colorful world.

In this moment I’m no longer bound but free to exist and focus on a world inspired by a different reality.

The purity of life seen in nature consumes my being. My senses are awake and alive using my vivid imagination.

Life could be so effortless from the limits of the concrete jungle where work and making money has kept us in bondage.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Crazies

You see them at work day after day

you try to avoid them,

Somehow they get in your way.

A ball of confusion

Don’t be under the illusion

They’ll ever change

Their ego has a wide range.

Making life at work so unbearable

Your relationship is irreparable.

To the point you want out

Because you just want to shout

But the wrong words may get in the way.

It’s a pity right now you’ll have to stay.

Nowhere to run, nowhere to hide

Responsibility holds the key

You’re all bottled up inside.

One day I hope that you can flee

From the crazies that like to bother thee.