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photo-1496096113680-63bcf8182576Some people like to hide their emotions and pretend everything is ok. Well everything in life is certainly not always wonderful…

I thought this year was going to be different but it feels like an extension of last year. For the first time in years, I didn’t write my New Years resolutions for 2018. I haven’t had enough time to reflect on all the recent changes in my life.

Have you ever felt like running away from your life?

clem-onojeghuo-477553.jpgI know most of us would never admit it, but there are times when life seems to get the best of us and we are at our wits end.

It’s good to be honest with ourselves and find a way to deal with these intense emotions. Otherwise it can be like a fire. If we don’t try to extinguish it when it starts, it may spread to other parts of our life. Then we’re engulfed in a lot of flames or rather problems that may be too late to put out.

Haven’t you ever dreamt of being on an island, palm trees swaying in the wind, while relaxing on a hammock, enjoying the warm breeze as it sweeps across your face, while sipping on your favorite drink? Or maybe you have other dreams or desires that makes you feel good.

That sounds like heaven on earth. Peace and quiet is my ultimate  reward even for a brief moment in time.

There are many ways to deal with negative emotions when it suddenly creeps into your life. Running away is not always the answer. Finding creative solutions to the problem at hand will help you grow stronger and more well-rounded.

Since I can’t escape to an island at will, even though I would love the opportunity at any given time, I usually settle for using my imagination. I try to imagine the site, sounds and smells while relaxing and transcending my mind to another place.

I also write, write and write some more to be able to put those intense emotions on paper rather than leaving them in my mind to linger and show up another day..

If you don’t deal with what’s making you feel like running away even for a day, it may come back to haunt you on another day.

photo-1483884105135-c06ea81a7a80Admitting to these emotions doesn’t make you a weak person but it has the ability to make you stronger as you flush out these intensities in your life.

What are some creative  ways to deal with life’s bummers?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Radiant Flowers

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Beautiful flowers in all its splendor,

Colors of greens, yellow and orange,

Making the heart glad and filled with wonder.

The sun shining in all its radiance,

Brilliantly dancing on the flowers below.

Connecting to the miracle of God’s earth,

Oh what wonders and awe of the creator.

Feeling connected to a God who can design

Such magnificence,

He created you in all your intricacies

In black, white yellows and red.

You are beautiful in his sight,

His ultimate creation,

To be the light of the earth.

Pat Fagan

 

 

 

 

Peace

why are we here 2Peace is a state of mind, which has a different meaning to those who genuinely seek it.

Peace is freedom from distraction, focusing on the beauty of life

Peace is love and being loved

Peace is the stillness of the morning on a bright sunny day, being still and enjoying the sunlight coming through the windows.

Peace is refraining from battles with those you come in contact with, a coworker, children friends or your spouse.

Peace is looking at the waves crashing on the beach time and time again, looking far and wide at the ocean that lays ahead.

Peace is tranquility, silence in a pure moment of surrender to this vast universe, observing all Gods creation and marveling at his creativity.

Peace is standing tall at the top of a mountain, screaming at the top of your lungs, feeling the wind blowing through your hair, and the freedom of just being, breathing and taking in the sites.

Peace is being in harmony with the world around you, not destroying but living harmoniously.

Peace is silence in prayer, praying for God’s blessing, healing and direction.

Peace is being still and meditating in God’s word.

Peace is believing God exist, creator of the universe, his unconditional love and gift of salvation. Knowing he is the same yesterday, today and always.

Nuggets of Truth: May the Lord of peace give you peace at all times and in every way. The Lord be with all of you.

2 Thessalonians 3:16

 

 

HERO TO ZERO

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Life is beautiful when you are considered a hero in someone’s eyes. It could be a child, a boss, a girlfriend or boyfriend. A husband or wife, married or single, being a hero can relate to just about anyone in this world. One day life changes and that child becomes a teen, your boss has found another star, and friendships are broken. In a short period of time, you go from hero to zero.

What is a hero by society’s standard? It is someone who is admired for their courage, achievements,  or other qualities, like showing courage through life’s difficulties. A hero can also be an object of extreme admiration.

Do you remember when your kids were younger? Well I do, and they looked up to you like you were a king or queen? Well as most parents know, when they become teenagers, they believe they know everything and you know nothing. The glow in their eyes and admiration diminishes. They no longer feel like you’re their hero.  You’re just mom and dad, who are imperfect beings. In today’s world, kids have learned so much through the internet that they begin to correct you even before high school.

How about working for a company for years where  you are considered one of the best employees. Year after year, you are commended and given awards. Your associates look at you with admiration and intrigue. Then one day things begin to shift in another direction.  Age becomes a factor and there is a new challenger that is being admired. There is always someone younger with more energy who may run cartwheels around you. Then one day your best isn’t good enough as someone else have taken your place. In a short period of time, you go from a hero to zero.

Friendships come and go. You can have a best friend today and sometimes foolishness crushes those relationships. In their eyes whether it is a love relationships or friendships, you can go from a hero to a zero.

These experiences could be a real life changer impacting your life in many ways if you allow it to become a thorn in your side. When you dwell upon where you are instead of where you are going, it will take over your life.

What is required is a new way of thinking. Transforming yourself and your ability to see these experiences in a positive light, will allow you to grow and develop new skills and characteristics. This will promote positive changes in order to move ahead towards the future. Maybe you needed a shift or a prompt to move in another direction. It’s easy to get stuck in one’s world while not growing mentally or spiritually. Sometimes I believe God has to give us a little nudge in order to wake us up from our mindlessness.

Nuggets of Truth: “We sometimes need a shakeup in order to wake up.”

                                       Pat Fagan

 

 

 

NEVER BE PERFECT

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I found this quote by Bonnie P fiester, and I had a desire to share it with people who feel the need to live in perfection. Her blog is primarily devoted to working out the body, but she also talks about the mind. Sometimes we are paralyzed by fear and are reluctant to move forward if we don’t think we can achieve our goal perfectly. But the words in this quote makes you stop, think and allows you to breathe, and accept yourself with all your imperfections. Your new objective is to focus on improving, not perfection, taking one day at a time.

We are all imperfect beings striving to become better in every aspect of our lives. Perfection is not attainable and should never be your goal. Just try to do your best at whatever you are trying to accomplish. At work, at home and in your personal life, keep trying to improve the quality of your life. None of us are perfect and if you try to walk down that path, you will run into frustration and disappointment when things don’t live up to your expectation. Let your heart be your guide and walk in truth no matter what circumstances come your way. Live your life to the best of your ability and let God direct your path. Everything takes time so don’t give up and just feel free and keep moving forward.

Nugget of Truth: “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive  an inheritance from the lord as reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”

Colossians 3:23-24

 

 

 

 

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Opposites

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Have you ever met anyone who thinks they’re always right? In a conversation, you are like night and day or positive and negative. Sometimes you can’t get a word in edge wise as they choose to believe their opinion of the facts are correct and yours is wrong, thus dominating the conversation. You debate on various personal and impersonal topics and you never seem to have a real understanding. The older you get some things never change. Think before you speak and refuse to engage in these debates. Continuing to discus a topic with someone who is unwilling to listen, will only lead to frustration.

It can happen on your job with your boss, or an associate. Family, friendships, or personal relationships, can also lead to broken dialogue if both parties are unable to share their thoughts. We have all experienced this in life, and it’s lessons we learn how to deal with on our journey.

Beleiving you’re always right, and not giving others the opportunity to express themselves is dangerous. Healthy debates and a willingness to listen to another persons opinion will allow your mind to expand to other possibilities. We are all learning and growing and no one has cornered the market on truth or factual information.

If you encounter someone with this type of disposition, my advice is to listen and let go. Don’t engage in their negative behavior. What doesn’t serve you will only lead to exasperation. Focus on constructive thoughts rather than destructive attitudes.