Are you failing at life?

girl-3141445_1280Have you ever told yourself you’re not going to do something and you did it again?

Well that was me about a week ago. After watching several videos on animal cruelty, I woke up the next morning and informed my daughter that mom has decided to be a vegetarian.

For several weeks I initiated and consumed a primarily vegetarian diet. I also included some seafood and watched cooking videos using vegetables in an array of dishes.

I have to admit, I was on my way to being a full-fledged vegetarian. Then hunger striked me when I least expected it.

I went to the mall and only had a glass of water that morning. Time went by and I was fine. Then in a moments weakness, I strolled into Shake Shack all the while deceiving myself I would eat a Portobello mushroom sandwich.

As I got closer to the register the smell of the food drew me in closer and closer. Then, as I began to place my order….

OMG!😲 I did it again. I ordered a hamburger. Yikes..

This is not the first time but the second on my way to vegetarianism.

In a moments weakness, I crumbled. Not only did I eat that delicious hamburger that I sworn off, but I didn’t mention it to my daughter.

🤔It’s funny how guilty you feel after doing something you told yourself that you weren’t going to do for any reason.

My daughter was so proud of my committment that I didn’t want her to know I failed. Yet, I knew she would forgive me nevertheless.

Failing in life is a lesson

Failing at anything you try to do in your life is only a lesson waiting to be learned.

There is always a hidden message from these experiences. Learn it and move on..

Giving up on whatever quest you desire is not an option.

Dust yourself off, pick yourself up and begin again.

You can choose to get stronger or allow your weakness to defeat you.

Life is a battle

Life is a battle and if you want to win that battle, find a winning team that will help encourage you to keep moving forward.

In conclusion, I am not going to tell you that I may not fall prey in a moments weakness to anything I decide to do in my life.

We all fall short. That’s what life is all about, learning and developing into the person you desire to become.

However I’m going to keep running my race no matter what challenges I face until one day I’m successful in whatever I commit to do in this life.

My wish for you is that you never give up and keep striving. Don’t let your demons get the best of you where you allow life’s failures to say you are not good enough.

Believing you can succeed is only the beginning.🤗

“If at first you don’t succeed try try again.”

Old Age can wait

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Why are some people in a hurry to look and act older than their years? We are all going to grow older one day. So why be in a hurry?

What would life look like if you took on a different mindset?

I for one plan on hanging on as long as possible. So let’s try to change that stinking thinking…Old age can wait.

Life can be timeless and ageless as long as it’s done correctly. You don’t have to wear your mother or fathers wardrobe because you feel that’s how you’re suppose to dress at your current age.

Time has changed and women and men are looking and feeling younger than the previous generation.

I suspect the Millennials and the coming generations are also going to be more mindful about their appearance at every age. From the look of things, they’re already making strides in those areas.

They’re more active and are aggressively changing their approach to old age. They no longer want to look and feel like they are old when they can do things to update their appearance.

Thank God to the changing mindset of the baby boomer generation. They are also rethinking how they want to appear as they continue to age.

Here is a tip for people who are getting older and continue to live in a negative mindset.

Stop saying that you’re old because it will sink into your mind and you will live out the rest of your life that way.

Think more youthful thoughts because you are not what you are on the outside.  Inwardly, you are still that young man or woman you were years ago.

So don’t allow your appearance or your health to defeat you. Think positive thoughts…

Do whatever you can to keep yourself from falling apart….

We all want to look and feel younger as long as possible, so we’re willing to try various methods in order to look more youthful. Whether its medical advances for the fountain of youth, face-lifts, cosmetics or necklifts, todays aging population are focused on staying more youthful for as long as they are able.

Although I agree with some of the methodology, I am not looking forward to having a facelift any time soon.

Have you seen some of our entertainers lately who has gone under the knife? With all that money they have available to invest in plastic surgery, some of them come out looking like the joker on Batman.

So stay tuned…In the future, hopefully there will be better scientific approach of improving your youthful appearance at any age without looking like some doctor made a mistake by making you look like someone from another planet.

Then you also have the show called Botched where some people are addicted to changing their appearance. Unfortunately for them,  sometimes their face or body is so screwed up that the doctors on Botched have to try to repair the damage.

My point is this, if you’re going to do anything to alter your appearance, please use some common sense tactics. There are many ways to improve and maintain an ageless demeanor and believe me, it’s not always about going under the knife.

I have seen some older men and women dress with such good taste.  Fashion can improve your appearance by focusing on your awareness of colors and the latest styles and trends for every season. All you have to do is incorporate some of those trends into your wardrobe and you’re already a winner.

It’s  definitely my intention to follow their lead and never give in to the age factor. Until the grim reaper comes knocking on my door, I will live like a woman who forgot her age.

There are so many new skin products on the market that helps improve the texture of a woman’s skin. Hopefully they will increase the number of products for men as we move into the future.

By the way, I am one of those younger baby boomers who is often mistaken to be 15 to 20 years younger than her actual age. Yeah!

Age is but a number. Dress to impress and live to be ageless.

Please, if you are someone who enjoys sticking to the mindset of old age, don’t take this article the wrong way.  I’m merely exploring other options to the way we think about aging.

Working in the fashion industry for most of my adult life has given me a little more insight to people’s dressing habits.

I’ve been observing people and frankly I pay attention to what they are saying when it comes to their wardrobe. I also take notice of their age while looking at their clothing.

There’s definitely a disconnect. People feel because of their age, they have to dress a certain way. I get it! But you don’t have to dress like your grandparents.

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This is just of an example of how people think when they shop for a particular item. The first thing they want to know, is whether or not it’s age appropriate. I understand but any item at any age can be worn as long as it is tastefully done. You have to use that common sense approach.

Who said backpacks are only for children and teenagers? I can’t tell you how many women over the years asked whether or not it was age appropriate. Designers are designing backpacks in leather, fabric and microfiber for women and men in any age group.

The Mindset

Change your mindset. “You’re only as old as you feel.” If you look old on the outside you’ll feel old on the inside. It’s like looking at a mirror of yourself and what you project, is what you get. If you look good, you’ll feel good.

Inside, you are very young at heart. You are still the same person even if the outside shows you’ve aged. So what! Embrace the new you by showing off with a wardrobe that will attract rather than deter.

Men and women who walk with confidence and belief in themselves are ageless at any age.

Tell me…What do you think?

Imagine

diana-simumpande-197805-unsplashA fantasy world exists in my mind as I close my eyes to the complex world around me.

I imagine unspoiled rainforests with lush vegetation and cascading waterfalls untouched by the footprints of man. 

Beaches with waters as blue-green as a turquoise gem.  The grains of sand like the color of an almond.

There was a ripple of excitement which filled my spirit as I strolled along this unknown and untapped sandy beach that stretched for miles in either direction.

A desperation of freedom sweeps across my mind hoping to escape the clutches of this world filled with pain and confusion.

I struggle to find the things in this life which make life more palatable as I envision this life filled with so much inspiration.

I’m temporary released from the stresses of life that continuously invades my space.

Even for a brief moment in time, I find peace and serenity as I visualize this new colorful world.

In this moment I’m no longer bound but free to exist and focus on a world inspired by a different reality.

The purity of life seen in nature consumes my being. My senses are awake and alive using my vivid imagination.

Life could be so effortless from the limits of the concrete jungle where work and making money has kept us in bondage.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Silence

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Silence can be found in so many ways

Be silent, be still get caught in a daze

The mind is searching, go deeper inside

Overwhelmed by thoughts

So vast and so wide

Do you need to know why?

Silence requires you spend time alone

Focus more on the unknown

Let your mind travel in unusual places

Experiencing life and leaving no traces

Be silent! Be still

All you need is your will

Tune out the world as you go to that place

Breathe slowly as you enter that space

The mind streaming thoughts in this altered reality

No rhyme or reason, just acting randomly

Ignore the noise

Which may break your concentration

Cell phones can definitely ruin your mind’s conversations

Be silent, be still

Think deep in your head

It only takes time

You’ll never know what lies ahead.

Pat Fagan

The Crazies

You see them at work day after day

you try to avoid them,

Somehow they get in your way.

A ball of confusion

Don’t be under the illusion

They’ll ever change

Their ego has a wide range.

Making life at work so unbearable

Your relationship is irreparable.

To the point you want out

Because you just want to shout

But the wrong words may get in the way.

It’s a pity right now you’ll have to stay.

Nowhere to run, nowhere to hide

Responsibility holds the key

You’re all bottled up inside.

One day I hope that you can flee

From the crazies that like to bother thee.

Summer Blues

sai-kiran-anagani-209542-unsplashWhat’s going on with this summer’s weather? It rains more often than I can remember. If it’s not raining, we’re experiencing 90 degrees hot, humid, and sticky summer days.

I think I have the summer blues…

I wish I can say I’m motivated to go hang out on the beach. But clearly, I don’t want to shake and bake in the hot sun. Frankly, I have more than enough color.

This is the first year I literally don’t feel like going on vacation. I love to travel. It’s just one of my passions. But my life has been going through a lot more downs than ups lately.

I recently suffered the loss of my mother. It’s been a huge downer and changes your appetite for a long time.

They say “time heals all wounds.” I hope so because my mom was my best friend and a praying woman. God has taken her home. I know she is at peace. The memories we shared will forever be imprinted in my heart.

So my husband and I have been doing odd  jobs around the house which never gets finished. I guess we watched too much HGTV. I’m so tired and ready to push it aside so I can get some fresh air. I don’t want to see another can of paint any time soon.

Therefore we decided to kick back and go on day trips near home. Our first stop will be a long ride to Rochester, New York to visit my husband’s college buddies. YEAH! Sounds like fun.🤔

When life is pulling you in different directions, going somewhere, anywhere to change the scenery may not be such a bad idea.🤗

We are now approaching the end of July.  Summer will be over in a very short time.

Will I continue to let my mood defeat me?

I might act impulsively and do something else on the spur of the moment.🤗

I am so disappointed I have done absolutely nothing, not even turn on the grill. But it’s not over until it’s over.

Stay tuned as I ponder my next move…