We Were Never Promised a Bed of Roses

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God never promised

Life would be a bed of roses

Filled with sweet aromas

Like the gentleness of a flower

Blowing gently in the summer wind

Trials like thorns and thistles

Show up unexpectedly

Choking out life

Leaving one breathless

Aroused by the darkness which

Quenches the spirit

Uncertainty rushes in

Entangled in a web of confusion

Then light beats out the darkness

And we are reminded

Endurance gives us strength

As we persevere through hardship

Faith in God

Drowns out the darkness

Our senses are stimulated knowing

That better days lies ahead.

 

 

 

 

Refreshing your New Years Resolution

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Do you know where you’re going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to.. do you know?

That was the theme song from the movie Mahogany starring Diana Ross and Billy Dee Williams written several years ago. It’s still relevant even today.

When Diana Ross sang that song, I was hooked and I began to ask my younger self some of these serious life questions.

You might as well say it motivated me to change the course of my life.

Now that my kids are grown, and life is moving in another direction, I’m beginning to ask myself the same hard questions.
Do you know where you’re going to? Do you like the things that life is showing you? Where are you going to..Do you know?

Refreshing your Resolutions

What is it about the New Year which gets us all so excited?

A New year prepares our hearts and minds to rethink the past year and to make new changes for the coming year.

The old year is gone with whatever positive or negative experiences we had along the way. It’s time to wake up and be optimistic about a better and brighter future.

We pray and believe this is the year our life is going to change. For a very small percentage of people, with a real sense of purpose, they go from being a caterpillar into a butterfly.

Statistically speaking, 97% of the population make New Years Resolutions and never follow through on their intended goals.
Why do we even bother making resolutions of we don’t intend to keep it?

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It’s like running a race. Ready, Set, Go! In the beginning of the year we’re so excited to make changes. Somewhere between the starting and finish line, our goals begin to fade.

I understand because I’ve also been down that road many times and I’ve made some progress. Honestly, I’m still not where I would like to be because I’m still working on my dream.

I’ll tell you something else you already know…

Life will never change unless you decide to make a change. It’s much easier to give up rather than to keep going.

Year after year, you may find yourself in the same place you were the year before. Your New Years resolution may look like this.

1. Lose weight

2. Exercise…Join a Gym

3. Start a Business

This is merely an example, however ask yourself this question. How did my life change in 2018? What worked or didn’t work?
How can I challenge myself to get to the finish line?
It’s time to refresh your resolutions and make the necessary changes in order to succeed.

  • Keep it simple…A long list of resolutions overwhelms one state of mind. So therefore keep it short and simple.
  • Setting goals…break your 2-3 goals into workable small steps. Taking smaller steps will keep you on track. For example, if you intend on losing 50lbs this year, don’t try to do it all at once. Try 1lb a week which is workable. There are 52 weeks in a year. Even with some cheating you are sure on your way to completing your goal. Worst case scenario you lose 25lbs, but it’s still an accomplishment.
  • Day timer…Make a schedule of your goals along with your usual daily routine in the same book. This will allow you to keep a good balance between home and your personal goals without over extending yourself.
  • Be consistent…Follow through and be consistent in your actions. If you start one day and continue a month later or not at all, that will set you back. You will find yourself struggling to start again and you might quit in the process. Think about how many people sign up for a gym memberships and quit within a very short period of time. Consistency is the key to making progress that drives and motivates you to completing your goal. It’s like driving a car, if you don’t put your foot on the gas pedal, the car isn’t going anywhere.
  • Permission…Give yourself permission to skip days in between without feeling guilty. That’s your treat and cheat day. Then stay on track. The main thing is that you don’t give up and you hold on in order to accomplish your goal.
  • Visualize…See yourself finishing your race and all the perks that will come with it whether its financial freedom, free time or a great vacation.
  • The sky is the limit… This is your year to move in the direction of your intended goals for your life. Stay on track and keep moving forward. I know it’s easier to give up rather than to keep going. Tell yourself by this time next year I will be…‚Ķ..
  • Take action…Refuse to stand still in the same place year after year. refresh revitalize, and restore your intended goals.

Don’t live your life adding to the pile of lost dreams for another year. I know you will succeed if you do not quit. I’m rooting for you as well as myself.. Yes we can!

Are you failing at life?

girl-3141445_1280Have you ever told yourself you’re not going to do something and you did it again?

Well that was me about a week ago. After watching several videos on animal cruelty, I woke up the next morning and informed my daughter that mom has decided to be a vegetarian.

For several weeks I initiated and consumed a primarily vegetarian diet. I also included some seafood and watched cooking videos using vegetables in an array of dishes.

I have to admit, I was on my way to being a full-fledged vegetarian. Then hunger striked me when I least expected it.

I went to the mall and only had a glass of water that morning. Time went by and I was fine. Then in a moments weakness, I strolled into Shake Shack all the while deceiving myself I would eat a Portobello mushroom sandwich.

As I got closer to the register the smell of the food drew me in closer and closer. Then, as I began to place my order….

OMG!ūüė≤ I did it again. I ordered a hamburger. Yikes..

This is not the first time but the second on my way to vegetarianism.

In a moments weakness, I crumbled. Not only did I eat that delicious hamburger that I sworn off, but I didn’t mention it to my daughter.

ūü§ĒIt’s funny how guilty you feel after doing something you told yourself that you weren’t going to do for any reason.

My daughter was so proud of my committment that I didn’t want her to know I failed. Yet, I knew she would forgive me nevertheless.

Failing in life is a lesson

Failing at anything you try to do in your life is only a lesson waiting to be learned.

There is always a hidden message from these experiences. Learn it and move on..

Giving up on whatever quest you desire is not an option.

Dust yourself off, pick yourself up and begin again.

You can choose to get stronger or allow your weakness to defeat you.

Life is a battle

Life is a battle and if you want to win that battle, find a winning team that will help encourage you to keep moving forward.

In conclusion, I am not going to tell you that I may not fall prey in a moments weakness to anything I decide to do in my life.

We all fall short. That’s what life is all about, learning and developing into the person you desire to become.

However I’m going to keep running my race no matter what challenges I face until one day I’m successful in whatever I commit to do in this life.

My wish for you is that you never give up and keep striving. Don’t let your demons get the best of you where you allow life’s failures to say you are not good enough.

Believing you can succeed is only the beginning.ūü§ó

“If at first you don’t succeed try try again.”

Old Age can wait

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Why are some people in a hurry to look and act older than their years? We are all going to grow older one day. So why be in a hurry?

What would life look like if you took on a different mindset?

I for one plan on hanging on as long as possible. So let’s try to change that stinking thinking…Old age can wait.

Life can be timeless and ageless as long as it’s done correctly. You don’t have to wear your mother or fathers wardrobe because you feel that’s how you’re suppose to dress at your current age.

Time has changed and women and men are looking and feeling younger than the previous generation.

I suspect the Millennials and the coming generations are also going to be more mindful about their appearance at every age. From the look of things, they’re already making strides in those areas.

They’re more active and are aggressively changing their approach to old age. They no longer want to look and feel like they are old when they can do things to update their appearance.

Thank God to the changing mindset of the baby boomer generation. They are also rethinking how they want to appear as they continue to age.

Here is a tip for people who are getting older and continue to live in a negative mindset.

Stop saying that you’re old because it will sink into your mind and you will live out the rest of your life that way.

Think more youthful thoughts because you are not what you are on the outside.  Inwardly, you are still that young man or woman you were years ago.

So don’t allow your appearance or your health to defeat you. Think positive thoughts…

Do whatever you can to keep yourself from falling apart….

We all want to look and feel younger as long as possible, so we’re willing to try various methods in order to look more youthful. Whether its medical advances for the fountain of youth, face-lifts, cosmetics or necklifts, todays aging population are focused on staying more youthful for as long as they are able.

Although I agree with some of the methodology, I am not looking forward to having a facelift any time soon.

Have you seen some of our entertainers lately who has gone under the knife? With all that money they have available to invest in plastic surgery, some of them come out looking like the joker on Batman.

So stay tuned…In the future, hopefully there will be better scientific approach of improving your youthful appearance at any age without looking like some doctor made a mistake by making you look like someone from another planet.

Then you also have the show called Botched where some people are addicted to changing their appearance. Unfortunately for them,  sometimes their face or body is so screwed up that the doctors on Botched have to try to repair the damage.

My point is this, if you’re going to do anything to alter your appearance, please use some common sense tactics. There are many ways to improve and maintain an ageless demeanor and believe me, it’s not always about going under the knife.

I have seen some older men and women dress with such good taste.¬† Fashion can improve your appearance by focusing on your awareness of colors and the latest styles and trends for every season. All you have to do is incorporate some of those trends into your wardrobe and you’re already a winner.

It’s¬† definitely my intention to follow their lead and never give in to the age factor. Until the grim reaper comes knocking on my door, I will live like a woman who forgot her age.

There are so many new skin products on the market that helps improve the texture of a woman’s skin. Hopefully they will increase the number of products for men as we move into the future.

By the way, I am one of those younger baby boomers who is often mistaken to be 15 to 20 years younger than her actual age. Yeah!

Age is but a number. Dress to impress and live to be ageless.

Please, if you are someone who enjoys sticking to the mindset of old age, don’t take this article the wrong way.¬† I’m merely exploring other options to the way we think about aging.

Working in the fashion industry for most of my adult life has given me a little more insight to people’s dressing habits.

I’ve been observing people and frankly I pay attention to what they are saying when it comes to their wardrobe. I also take notice of their age while looking at their clothing.

There’s definitely a disconnect. People feel because of their age, they have to dress a certain way. I get it! But you don’t have to dress like your grandparents.

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This is just of an example of how people think when they shop for a particular item. The first thing they want to know, is whether or not it’s age appropriate. I understand but any item at any age can be worn as long as it is tastefully done. You have to use that common sense approach.

Who said backpacks are only for children and teenagers? I can’t tell you how many women over the years asked whether or not it was age appropriate. Designers are designing backpacks in leather, fabric and microfiber for women and men in any age group.

The Mindset

Change your mindset. “You’re only as old as you feel.” If you look old on the outside you’ll feel old on the inside. It’s like looking at a mirror of yourself and what you project, is what you get. If you look good, you’ll feel good.

Inside, you are very young at heart. You are still the same person even if the outside shows you’ve aged. So what! Embrace the new you by showing off with a wardrobe that will attract rather than deter.

Men and women who walk with confidence and belief in themselves are ageless at any age.

Tell me…What do you think?

Imagine

diana-simumpande-197805-unsplashA fantasy world exists in my mind as I close my eyes to the complex world around me.

I imagine unspoiled rainforests with lush vegetation and cascading waterfalls untouched by the footprints of man. 

Beaches with waters as blue-green as a turquoise gem.  The grains of sand like the color of an almond.

There was a ripple of excitement which filled my spirit as I strolled along this unknown and untapped sandy beach that stretched for miles in either direction.

A desperation of freedom sweeps across my mind hoping to escape the clutches of this world filled with pain and confusion.

I struggle to find the things in this life which make life more palatable as I envision this life filled with so much inspiration.

I’m temporary released from the stresses of life that continuously invades my space.

Even for a brief moment in time, I find peace and serenity as I visualize this new colorful world.

In this moment I’m no longer bound but free to exist and focus on a world inspired by a different reality.

The purity of life seen in nature consumes my being. My senses are awake and alive using my vivid imagination.

Life could be so effortless from the limits of the concrete jungle where work and making money has kept us in bondage.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Silence

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Silence can be found in so many ways

Be silent, be still get caught in a daze

The mind is searching, go deeper inside

Overwhelmed by thoughts

So vast and so wide

Do you need to know why?

Silence requires you spend time alone

Focus more on the unknown

Let your mind travel in unusual places

Experiencing life and leaving no traces

Be silent! Be still

All you need is your will

Tune out the world as you go to that place

Breathe slowly as you enter that space

The mind streaming thoughts in this altered reality

No rhyme or reason, just acting randomly

Ignore the noise

Which may break your concentration

Cell phones can definitely ruin your¬†mind’s conversations

Be silent, be still

Think deep in your head

It only takes time

You’ll never know what lies ahead.

Pat Fagan