Life’s Mess

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Talking to my self about life’s mess

Which unfolds day by day

Oh what terrible stress

No matter what I have to say

Take time to think less  

There is always a better way

Clear your mind while you breathe destress

All you have to do is Pray

Pat Fagan

 

Surrender

toia-montes-de-oca-345720-unsplashSome things are out of your control no matter how hard you try..

In life, when doing your best is just not good enough it’s time to surrender. What’s a person to do?

When you try your best to take care of your family and you feel like you’re being pulled in different directions, surrender. You may feel at times doing your best is just not good enough.

When you’re working hard to build a new or old relationship and your best is just not good enough, surrender.

When you work hard at your job and no matter how much you contribute, your boss is never happy with your work, surrender.

When you’re studying and working hard at school to do your best and your teacher or Professor gives you a low grade, surrender.

To all those struggling to do their best…

What the heck, sometimes your best is just not good enough so go ahead and surrender..

Surrender to the fact that no one is perfect so all you can give is your best.

Have peace knowing there are some things you can’t change and others you can depending on the circumstances.

Surrender, learn to let it go or it will get the best of you if you allow it to destroy your thinking.

Make the necessary changes in order to be effective and happy with who you are and your contributions.

Then surrender and be happy knowing you have done all that you can possibly do in any given situation.

If your best is still not good enough, hang in there and surrender, turn it over to the God above and have serenity knowing you have done your best.

I tried to do my best and if my best is not good enough so be it..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why do we write?

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I have asked myself that question so many times. Why do we write? When I saw this quote, my perspective as to why I write changed.

I believe we all have the ability to change the world. Picking up a pen to write your thoughts in order to inspire change, is just one way to help others take action.

Writing is a creative outlet for people who love to express themselves through the power of the written word. I started writing many years ago for my own benefit. When I was concerned about different aspects of my life, I used writing as an outlet to release the thoughts which consumed my mind.

However I learned a very important lesson as my writing developed, It’s not about me, but the power of the written word to encourage and help others.  My desire was also to share my experiences to reshape the way people think about themselves in relation to the world.

We all can learn from one another whether it’s through poetry, fiction and non fiction, biographies and self development books. Writing is an art form that can inspire change.

So, why do you write? Is it to educate, teach, share life’s lessons, or other reasons? To be honest, it really doesn’t matter as long as you are writing to be inspirational in some capacity. If you can get people to think about their world, and the role they play in it, your job is done.

Another reason why we write is our stinking thinking sometimes gets the best of us and we fall prey to all kinds of negative emotions. The impact is great as it reduces our ability to move forward even for a short time.

Through our thoughts and emotions, writers have the ability to impact our world. We all use different methods and way of getting your attention. However our reasons are vast and as a group, we have made a large dent in how people view their world.

Stop! Think for a moment and ask yourself one question. How can I use my writing to change the world?

 

 

 

 

 

 

Finding Pleasure

joshua-earle-252222Live your dreams

Change your reality

Heighten your senses

Find solace in hidden sanctuaries

of beauty and love

Gaze on the countless stars above

Get lost in the mysteries of our universe

Daydream of new life that exist beyond this world

Untold secrets and unspoken words

Pause

Find pleasure in everyday life

no matter how small the moments

Focus on what matters

Eliminate that which seeks to steal

your inner joy and prevent you from really

living the life you deserve.

 

CRUISING

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WAIT A MINUTE

This is not about cruising on the high seas while drinking margaritas by the pool. Or even visiting different Ports and destinations.

What I’m talking about is cruising through life and the happy times or pitfalls you may find along the way. While cruising on the high seas you may experience smooth or rough waters. At times a storm can come out of nowhere and disrupt your happy moments and so it is with everyday life.

It could be as simple as working on a job you don’t like, maybe taking care of your elderly parents which gives you a new purpose you may or may not be ready to fulfill. Sometimes getting into a new relationship or giving up on an old one.

Your pace may start out very slowly as you cruise making several changes and stops along the way. While you take the time to assess every experience on your journey, life becomes filled with twists and turns causing an explosion of events that changes your trajectory along the way.

Lately, I have been experiencing a chain of events which has rocked my world. I have come to the conclusion that everything happens for a reason and someday my ship will come in and hopefully I will be ready to go on a new adventure.

Now is not the time because I have taken on the roll of caretaker for my elderly Parents. I never knew how much work was involved. These past few months have been a real eye opener as I struggled to provide for them while also working several hours a day.

I am blessed because I have really enjoyed the time we spend together and the laughter we’ve shared.

They lost their dream to live out their life in their homeland due to hurricane Maria. Now they feel hopeless and homeless. However, reality has arrived and I have come to the conclusion they need 24 hour care.

Overwhelmed by this conclusion, my siblings and I have to come up with a game plan that will give them the care that they deserve with a quality of life they can appreciate.

This is not an easy decision as my cruising has been altered by this chain of events. My energy level has been depleted and I am totally off-balance as I take care of their needs while neglecting my own.

I’m way off course and out-of-order not knowing one day from the next.  I  am focused on their care and happiness while beginning to lose my way. I thank God I’ve had the opportunity to open my heart and home.

In order to get back on course I need to get them the care that they need and deserve. I love my Parents and I pray that God will guide our thoughts in order to make the right decision for there care.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let’s Talk

photo-1496096113680-63bcf8182576Some people like to hide their emotions and pretend everything is ok. Well everything in life is certainly not always wonderful…

I thought this year was going to be different but it feels like an extension of last year. For the first time in years, I didn’t write my New Years resolutions for 2018. I haven’t had enough time to reflect on all the recent changes in my life.

Have you ever felt like running away from your life?

clem-onojeghuo-477553.jpgI know most of us would never admit it, but there are times when life seems to get the best of us and we are at our wits end.

It’s good to be honest with ourselves and find a way to deal with these intense emotions. Otherwise it can be like a fire. If we don’t try to extinguish it when it starts, it may spread to other parts of our life. Then we’re engulfed in a lot of flames or rather problems that may be too late to put out.

Haven’t you ever dreamt of being on an island, palm trees swaying in the wind, while relaxing on a hammock, enjoying the warm breeze as it sweeps across your face, while sipping on your favorite drink? Or maybe you have other dreams or desires that makes you feel good.

That sounds like heaven on earth. Peace and quiet is my ultimate  reward even for a brief moment in time.

There are many ways to deal with negative emotions when it suddenly creeps into your life. Running away is not always the answer. Finding creative solutions to the problem at hand will help you grow stronger and more well-rounded.

Since I can’t escape to an island at will, even though I would love the opportunity at any given time, I usually settle for using my imagination. I try to imagine the site, sounds and smells while relaxing and transcending my mind to another place.

I also write, write and write some more to be able to put those intense emotions on paper rather than leaving them in my mind to linger and show up another day..

If you don’t deal with what’s making you feel like running away even for a day, it may come back to haunt you on another day.

photo-1483884105135-c06ea81a7a80Admitting to these emotions doesn’t make you a weak person but it has the ability to make you stronger as you flush out these intensities in your life.

What are some creative  ways to deal with life’s bummers?