Do it your way

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SUCCESS

Do it your way….

Setting goals and trying to be like the over achievers in our world is not for everyone. Success comes in many forms and it can be as simple as doing something you’ve never done before.

Do it your way and on your own terms. You’re the only one who can define what being successful means to you. If you try to live your life based on other people’s opinion of what your life should be, you will live a life of disappointment.

Find the truth of what being successful means to you as an individual. Stop trying to be someone who doesn’t feel comfortable in their own skin because of social pressures. The world’s view of being successful does not dictate who we are or what kind of life we would like to live in the future. We all have a different road to travel which will take us to our ultimate destination.

What does success look like for you?

 

 

High Heel Pumps

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From Merillon ave to Penn Station New York

A little bit of vanity can skew your thinking in order to conform to the trends in society. I remember walking to the train station in high heel pumps in order to catch an early train from Merillon ave to Penn Station New York. My feet were strong in those days, and I never stopped to consider the consequences.  I tried to look as cute as can be in my pointy toes high heels pumps which were a couple of inches off the ground. I worked in the Fashion Industry, and Seventh Avenue, was my destination.

Following the Crowd

I was following the crowd, rushing to and from work without contemplating the result and discomfort of walking in high heel pumps. At that time, it was about walking in style and being in fashion. Who would have thought I would trade in high heel pumps for a pair of sneakers.

A Rude Awakening

One morning as I was walking in those high heel pumps, crowds of people were walking in unison to work. As we were all ready to cross on 34th street,  down I went in the middle of the street. Ouch! I turned around and got up quickly to regain my composure. Of course, not one person turned around to help me. People were in a zombie like state and was following their own agenda.  Years later, I laugh about that experience and thank God I wasn’t seriously hurt. My pride was a little bruised and that was more than enough.  I had a rude awakening about following the trends set in society.

From High heel Pumps to Sneakers

After that day, I traded my high heel pumps, and I started wearing sneakers in order to go to and from work. I didn’t care about the trends, but walking and being in comfort. That was the day I did a complete round about. I started thinking differently about the life I was living and figured out what benefited my lifestyle.

High heel pumps is a metaphor for in this article in reference to how we respond to life happenings everyday. Are you comfortable in your own shoes? Or are you ready to trade in your pair for a pair that sets your own trend?

Lessons Learned

I learned several important lesson that day:

  • It doesn’t pay to look cute if your comfort is at stake.
  • You have to think for yourself and not be a crowd pleaser.
  • Trends come and go and just because it’s a trend, it doesn’t mean you have to follow society’s way of thinking.
  • Set your own trends, be yourself and find out what works for you in all aspects of life
  • Sometimes, you’re on your own, as you look around for a helping hand. Don’t despair, get up dust yourself off and keep moving forward.
  • It’s ok to trade in High Heel Pumps for sneakers even if its only to and from work.
  • It’s all about finding remedies for the choices we make in life otherwise “we will reap whatever we sow.”

 

                                                                                                             Pat Fagan

 

 

 

 

A New Year

Wishing you all the best for 2017 and the years to come

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Life can definitely be a challenge from year to year as different trials and tribulations make up the fabric of our lives. But there is always hope for better tomorrows. As we move towards a new year, I pray for blessings for you and your family. Thanks to all of those who supported me in the past and to all the new supporters who will read my blog in the future. May God bless you.

Breaking Free

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Have you ever tried something which turned out to be a mistake? Well I did it again but this time, I had to admit to the problem. I absolutely hate routines, especially when it comes to diet and exercise.

Self Discovery

On a lazy afternoon, I sat on the couch flipping through the television channels, hoping to find an interesting program. Then I caught a glimpse of a new weight loss program which helps people lose weight by making the right lifestyle choices. I was hooked and ordered the program. I have been looking for something simple in order to maintain my weight without running to a gym or going crazy with other exercise videos. Based on statistics, most people who join gyms pay for memberships but usually don’t follow through to get the results they are seeking. I’ve been there and done that at least three times in my lifetime.

I was so excited to start this program that I downloaded it, rather than waiting for it to come in the mail. The first part of the program, I had to read over 60 pages in order to understand calories and the theory of fat. By the time I was on page 30, I had forgotten what I read a few pages back. Then there was an exercise program and measurements you had to take from your neck down. In order to motivate you, there were several women writing about their positive experience with the program.

So I continued to read on, still excited but I can see myself walking down a steep hill. I knew I was going to get to the bottom after continuing to page 60. Then I began to get a lot of emails from the company with great advice about staying healthy and eating the right foods. Wait there is a catch, you had to buy their supplements in order to maintain your weight to have that perfect body you always wanted. Weeks went by, I didn’t purchase any of their products. I got a friendly email yesterday which read, “we noticed you haven’t purchased any of our supplements, so therefore, we will give you a 30% discount towards your purchase.”

It was a wrap for me at that point. Time to break free from another to-do on my agenda. I have nothing against any of these type of programs and I am glad it works for others. I learned a very important lesson about myself through this experience. If I find another weight loss program, run don’t walk to the nearest exit. If it’s another lazy afternoon, keep your credit card as far away from any device that will allow you place an order for something which does not define who you are at this point of your life.

In life, there is always going to be routines. But the way I look at it, you have to pick your poison. This is just one of them I would rather avoid. My heart is in the right place for the right reasons but I know the truth about what makes me feel  uncomfortable. Anytime I got involved with a program that becomes a routine, especially when it comes to diet and exercise, it doesn’t work. I can’t even handle following recipes. I make my own. So what was I thinking?

In conclusion, I am going the natural route. I will try to eat healthy, walk whenever possible, and purchase my own supplements. Cheat days, absolutely! But I will continue to maintain a healthy weight. Breaking free from this program was the best thing I ever did because I am at peace with myself, accepting who I am and taking responsibility for my actions.

Nugget of truth: Embrace the truth about yourself. Be the person that God created you to be. Acceptance is key, and living out your truth.