Do it your way

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SUCCESS

Do it your way….

Setting goals and trying to be like the over achievers in our world is not for everyone. Success comes in many forms and it can be as simple as doing something you’ve never done before.

Do it your way and on your own terms. You’re the only one who can define what being successful means to you. If you try to live your life based on other people’s opinion of what your life should be, you will live a life of disappointment.

Find the truth of what being successful means to you as an individual. Stop trying to be someone who doesn’t feel comfortable in their own skin because of social pressures. The world’s view of being successful does not dictate who we are or what kind of life we would like to live in the future. We all have a different road to travel which will take us to our ultimate destination.

What does success look like for you?

 

 

I never want to do that again

 

I never want to do that againWho are we kidding? It’s the same story we tell ourselves over and over again in order to change our behavior, yet it remains the same. Amazingly, without realizing it, our lives are being impacted like a scene out of the Twilight Zone.

Traffic Jam

This morning, I woke up at my normal time and got ready for work in my usual manner. Side tracked with a minor problem, I left the house a little later than usual. I wish I can say this is the first time but there are everyday distractions which holds my attention every now and then. To my surprise, when I got on the Highway, there was an inordinate amount of traffic due to lane closures for pothole repair.

Beat The Clock

I got off the next exit in order to find a way around the traffic. Time was running out and I was driving a little faster than normal. Feeling stressed and trying to beat the clock, I went through several towns in order to get back on the Highway. Isn’t it funny in life when you’re running late, it never fails, there is always a truck driving very slowly, a person who is in retirement mode on a Sunday morning drive or someone going shopping on their day off in front of you. So while in your mind, you’re in the fast lane at 80 miles an hour, tense with your heart racing to get to work on time, they are driving 20 miles an hour. Ouch!

I pulled into the parking lot and got out of my car running fast as if my life depended on it, I made it just in the nick of time. Out of breath and trying to compose myself, I said, “I never want to do that again.” Really, it’s not the first time and it may not be the last. Life has a way of knocking you off your feet when you least expect it.

How many times do we tell ourselves we will never do the following:

  • We will never eat more than our stomach can handle. Then we eat more and more until we are uncomfortable and our stomach is bloated.
  • We will never be late for work to the point where rushing becomes a habit every morning. Unfortunately for some of us, it becomes a habit which is hard to break.
  • We will never spread gossip or slander our neighbor.
  • We will never spend more than we can afford. Have you looked at your credit cards lately?
  • We will never drink to get drunk to the point where it affects our ability to function in a normal manner. Hangovers is not particularly fun.
  • We will never drive over the speed limit and then suddenly you get pulled over for speeding.
  • We will never fight with our spouse, friends, or coworkers if possible, OOPS!

There are so many things in our life which we wish we can change. Unfortunately, if you do something habitually, it becomes a habit which is hard to break. It’s not impossible as long as we are willing to commit to making changes in order to break the cycle. For instance, I could have made a decision to leave my house a little earlier in order to compensate for any problems that may arise. But sometimes its easier to keep doing the same thing over and over again without thinking of the consequences that may result from this pattern of behavior. I believe at this juncture of our lives, its time to break the cycle and commit to making the changes which will make life more bearable.

Have you ever had one of those moments you wish you could change?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Life is Precious

The Gift of Life

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Life is precious and the more we realize the gift that’s been freely given by our creator in spite of our ups and downs, the better we’ll feel. Living a life full of real intention whether at work, home, or play will improve your mood and provide a spark of passion. I know you don’t always feel that way, but you can try to improve every aspect of your life by learning valuable lessons, while transforming like a caterpillar in a cocoon who goes through the necessary changes in order to convert into a beautiful butterfly.

The Matrix

If you ever saw the movie called The Matrix, you will understand the illusionary world that the humans are living in day-to-day. People are going through the motion, but like the main character, they feel like something is wrong, but they can’t figure out what it is which makes them so uncomfortable. In our present world, there is so much going on in our personal life as well as the world outside our window. Some people are getting more and more depressed and in some cases willing to take their own life. However, life is precious and we can’t allow it to beat us down as we stand defeated.

Building Relationships

Find people in your life you can lean on for support in times of sadness. We all need someone we can talk to who will help us through the tough times. Good relationships start with good people skills, so listen effectively and develop empathy. Be positive and appreciate others who may also turn to you in times of trouble. Life is precious and a gift therefore we need to connect with each other and invest our time to build each other up rather than tear each other down. Whenever possible spend more time with family and friends away from the hustle and bustle of life.

Start off each day with a song

Jimmy Durante was an American singer, pianist, comedian, and actor. He wrote a song which touches my heart every time I hear it. Life is precious and how you choose to see and live it makes all the difference in the world. His words of wisdom are very inspiring as it gives us a reason to start our day each morning with a smile on our face and a song in our heart.

Start Off Each Day With a Song

You gotta start off each day with a song

Now even when things go wrong

You’ll feel better

You’ll even look better

I’m here to tell you that you’ll be a go-getter

Now the way you shake my hand

Will tell me how I stand

Now isn’t it better to go through life with a smile and a song

Than walking around with a face 11 miles long

Now you know you can’t go wrong

 If you start off each day with a song

 

 

 

 

 

 

AFTER THE STORM

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For the first time, in a long time,  I was at a lost for words. I was unsure of what I wanted to write about because of the economic climate in our country. Numb and paralyzed based on the series of event that took place this past week, my mind was in a state of confusion.

2016

We the people elected our 45th President of the United States of America. His Name is Donald J Trump, whose promise of change, and his ability to hear the voices of those who are hurting in this country propelled him to a victory. His election was like an earthquake, which rippled across the world which his opponents didn’t anticipate and was totally astonished by the results.

Unfortunately, not everyone was in agreement, as protests of his candidacy sent echo’s of disenchantment around the country. It was believed based on exit polls that Mrs. Clinton would have been the presumed winner. The faces shown on television of the Democratic team, exposed their disappointment and shock which transpired after state by state fell into the hands of the Republican’s.

I believe God is in control of all things seen an unseen. So therefore, I will continue  to pray for healing of our country.

We are all concerned with the direction of this country, whether you’re on the red or blue team. The fact that the one percent elite keeps the majority of the wealth in this country and don’t pay their fair share really isn’t helping anyone. There is a lot of anger in this country because people are being taken for granted while these politicians are pursuing their own agenda. They are also tired of the struggles in Washington and their inability to help the people economically in need. The plight of everyday people has fallen on death ear.

We are all living in interesting times, and the ride is going to get bumpy in the next few years. Some people are hopeful, banking on Mr. Trump to bring about the change they seek, while others continue to demonstrate in opposition to his Presidency. There is a lot of fear and disgust due to the level of uncertainty in a world spinning out of control.

I hope and Pray we learn to come together as a people, not divided by political parties, race, or ethnicity. We the people have more common ground than differences. Over the next four years, let our voices be heard in opposition to anything which does not serve our interest.

Nuggets of Truth:  “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

OFF TOPIC

FALSE PERCEPTIONS

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We live in one of the most richest countries on the planet. Yet we complain about what we don’t have, rather than thanking God for all his blessings.  As individuals, we may not have a lot of money, but we have the essential comforts in order to live a more productive life. Our false perceptions about our world, keeps us from looking beyond what we see, when we are focused on our own reality.

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When we stop to reflect about some of the people living in our global community, In comparison we are more than blessed.  Unfortunately, in other countries,  not everyone has the ability to obtain the basic necessities for everyday life. Their are countries where the life expectancy, gross national income per capita and average years of schooling is lower than western societies.

I saw a post on Facebook recently shared by a friend, which reminded me of the reality of children across the world who are starving in orphanages. It was so in my face, I was shocked into the reality of the importance of giving. These kids were naked, hungry, extremely thin to the point, you weren’t quite sure of their age. Their reality is one of hunger, lack of clothing, sadness, and the inability to have their basic needs met.

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Our false perception about our own country blinds us from the truth. In a country as rich as ours, there are 2.5million kids who are homeless, an 8 percent increase in America today. There are also 13 million children who live in households that do not get food on a regular basis in  order to nourish their bodies.

Why in a world of plenty, do so many children and people go homeless and hungry? I know it’s  complicated and not as simple a problem to solve. However, the way I see it, we can all do our part. I know there are various organizations doing their part in order to try to end world hunger. Yet there is so much more to be done.

Within our own reality, we can all give a little to continue the struggle of ending poverty and homelessness.  We can start by taking off the blinders and keeping it real. Having a false perception only skews your view  of what’s really going on in our world today.

Color and skin

 A spectrum of Gods design

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Our world, is filled with a lot of  beauty and an array of different colors. Its range can be seen in the animal kingdom, our oceans, insects, and land formations. We notice it in rock formations, flowers, and the human race.

I recently had a conversation about the color of our skin, with a woman I’ve known for years. She asked me, why did God create us with different skin tones? Surprised by this question, coming from a person who lived more than half of their life, I attempted to explain it in layman’s terms. “God created mankind in his own image .”Let me continue by saying, all humans on planet earth are descendants from Noah and his wife, his three sons and their wives. Before that the original man and woman was Adam and Eve. We are one human family which is called the human race.

So, why did God make us different  skin colors? Instead of going into scientific answers to this question, and trying to analyze the genetics of mankind, I will give you my personal opinion and simplistic view. After reading through many passages in the bible over the years, I believe God, the creator of the heavens and the earth is a God of diversity.

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When I look at nature in all its wonder, whether the birds of the air, flowers, plants or trees , God created them in different shapes and colors. Nothing is exactly the same. The colors of the rainbow shows his handiwork. Look  at the entire universe, his creation, his masterpiece.  WHAT DO YOU SEE ABOVE AND BELOW? COLOR! Our planets within our own galaxy shows color. All that is seen is Gods artwork, his intelligent design. He loves color and You and I are no different. Can you imagine a world where there is only one race? How about a world absent of color? Our world revolves around color, that’s what makes it aesthetically pleasing to the eyes.

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Some people would have you believe color is due to inbreeding, moving to different climates, and genetics. There are those who would even suggest Adam and Eve may have produce offspring in different colors. Even if any of these claims were true, our God who is in control of all things, would have known the outcome. Don’t believe the hype! God is a God of variety and splendor.  I believe, he will always be a God who uses color in all his creations. He is in control of everything, whether your skin is black, brown, yellow, red or white, color is determined by our creator.  

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Color is also a construct created by man in order to divide the human race, rather than unite us as a people.We must stop sweating the small stuff in life and come together, refraining from what makes us different, but remembering  our commonality as human beings.  Martin Luther king once stated ” I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their  character. ” Accept others, no matter what their color, as our Fathers has designed each of us for his great pleasure. If we say we believe in God, how can we reject his creation?

John 1:3-All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made.

Psalm 139:14-I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.

 

 

OUR NEW REALITY

 

UNEMPLOYMENTThe Year is 2016, and already a lot has changed from previous years. As I listen to more and more people who’ve lost their jobs, the times they are changing. Friends, family, neighbors, and strangers are out of work for more than a year. Jobs have been moving overseas, leaving workers in disarray. Loyalty and hard work is no longer rewarded but disregarded as changes become more prevalent.  Left to pick up the pieces of their lives, their salaries are reduced as they go in search for a new job in order to support their Continue reading “OUR NEW REALITY”