Do it your way

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SUCCESS

Do it your way….

Setting goals and trying to be like the over achievers in our world is not for everyone. Success comes in many forms and it can be as simple as doing something you’ve never done before.

Do it your way and on your own terms. You’re the only one who can define what being successful means to you. If you try to live your life based on other people’s opinion of what your life should be, you will live a life of disappointment.

Find the truth of what being successful means to you as an individual. Stop trying to be someone who doesn’t feel comfortable in their own skin because of social pressures. The world’s view of being successful does not dictate who we are or what kind of life we would like to live in the future. We all have a different road to travel which will take us to our ultimate destination.

What does success look like for you?

 

 

High Heel Pumps

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From Merillon ave to Penn Station New York

A little bit of vanity can skew your thinking in order to conform to the trends in society. I remember walking to the train station in high heel pumps in order to catch an early train from Merillon ave to Penn Station New York. My feet were strong in those days, and I never stopped to consider the consequences.  I tried to look as cute as can be in my pointy toes high heels pumps which were a couple of inches off the ground. I worked in the Fashion Industry, and Seventh Avenue, was my destination.

Following the Crowd

I was following the crowd, rushing to and from work without contemplating the result and discomfort of walking in high heel pumps. At that time, it was about walking in style and being in fashion. Who would have thought I would trade in high heel pumps for a pair of sneakers.

A Rude Awakening

One morning as I was walking in those high heel pumps, crowds of people were walking in unison to work. As we were all ready to cross on 34th street,  down I went in the middle of the street. Ouch! I turned around and got up quickly to regain my composure. Of course, not one person turned around to help me. People were in a zombie like state and was following their own agenda.  Years later, I laugh about that experience and thank God I wasn’t seriously hurt. My pride was a little bruised and that was more than enough.  I had a rude awakening about following the trends set in society.

From High heel Pumps to Sneakers

After that day, I traded my high heel pumps, and I started wearing sneakers in order to go to and from work. I didn’t care about the trends, but walking and being in comfort. That was the day I did a complete round about. I started thinking differently about the life I was living and figured out what benefited my lifestyle.

High heel pumps is a metaphor for in this article in reference to how we respond to life happenings everyday. Are you comfortable in your own shoes? Or are you ready to trade in your pair for a pair that sets your own trend?

Lessons Learned

I learned several important lesson that day:

  • It doesn’t pay to look cute if your comfort is at stake.
  • You have to think for yourself and not be a crowd pleaser.
  • Trends come and go and just because it’s a trend, it doesn’t mean you have to follow society’s way of thinking.
  • Set your own trends, be yourself and find out what works for you in all aspects of life
  • Sometimes, you’re on your own, as you look around for a helping hand. Don’t despair, get up dust yourself off and keep moving forward.
  • It’s ok to trade in High Heel Pumps for sneakers even if its only to and from work.
  • It’s all about finding remedies for the choices we make in life otherwise “we will reap whatever we sow.”

 

                                                                                                             Pat Fagan

 

 

 

 

AFTER THE STORM

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For the first time, in a long time,  I was at a lost for words. I was unsure of what I wanted to write about because of the economic climate in our country. Numb and paralyzed based on the series of event that took place this past week, my mind was in a state of confusion.

2016

We the people elected our 45th President of the United States of America. His Name is Donald J Trump, whose promise of change, and his ability to hear the voices of those who are hurting in this country propelled him to a victory. His election was like an earthquake, which rippled across the world which his opponents didn’t anticipate and was totally astonished by the results.

Unfortunately, not everyone was in agreement, as protests of his candidacy sent echo’s of disenchantment around the country. It was believed based on exit polls that Mrs. Clinton would have been the presumed winner. The faces shown on television of the Democratic team, exposed their disappointment and shock which transpired after state by state fell into the hands of the Republican’s.

I believe God is in control of all things seen an unseen. So therefore, I will continue  to pray for healing of our country.

We are all concerned with the direction of this country, whether you’re on the red or blue team. The fact that the one percent elite keeps the majority of the wealth in this country and don’t pay their fair share really isn’t helping anyone. There is a lot of anger in this country because people are being taken for granted while these politicians are pursuing their own agenda. They are also tired of the struggles in Washington and their inability to help the people economically in need. The plight of everyday people has fallen on death ear.

We are all living in interesting times, and the ride is going to get bumpy in the next few years. Some people are hopeful, banking on Mr. Trump to bring about the change they seek, while others continue to demonstrate in opposition to his Presidency. There is a lot of fear and disgust due to the level of uncertainty in a world spinning out of control.

I hope and Pray we learn to come together as a people, not divided by political parties, race, or ethnicity. We the people have more common ground than differences. Over the next four years, let our voices be heard in opposition to anything which does not serve our interest.

Nuggets of Truth:  “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

OFF TOPIC

FALSE PERCEPTIONS

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We live in one of the most richest countries on the planet. Yet we complain about what we don’t have, rather than thanking God for all his blessings.  As individuals, we may not have a lot of money, but we have the essential comforts in order to live a more productive life. Our false perceptions about our world, keeps us from looking beyond what we see, when we are focused on our own reality.

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When we stop to reflect about some of the people living in our global community, In comparison we are more than blessed.  Unfortunately, in other countries,  not everyone has the ability to obtain the basic necessities for everyday life. Their are countries where the life expectancy, gross national income per capita and average years of schooling is lower than western societies.

I saw a post on Facebook recently shared by a friend, which reminded me of the reality of children across the world who are starving in orphanages. It was so in my face, I was shocked into the reality of the importance of giving. These kids were naked, hungry, extremely thin to the point, you weren’t quite sure of their age. Their reality is one of hunger, lack of clothing, sadness, and the inability to have their basic needs met.

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Our false perception about our own country blinds us from the truth. In a country as rich as ours, there are 2.5million kids who are homeless, an 8 percent increase in America today. There are also 13 million children who live in households that do not get food on a regular basis in  order to nourish their bodies.

Why in a world of plenty, do so many children and people go homeless and hungry? I know it’s  complicated and not as simple a problem to solve. However, the way I see it, we can all do our part. I know there are various organizations doing their part in order to try to end world hunger. Yet there is so much more to be done.

Within our own reality, we can all give a little to continue the struggle of ending poverty and homelessness.  We can start by taking off the blinders and keeping it real. Having a false perception only skews your view  of what’s really going on in our world today.

OUR NEW REALITY

 

UNEMPLOYMENTThe Year is 2016, and already a lot has changed from previous years. As I listen to more and more people who’ve lost their jobs, the times they are changing. Friends, family, neighbors, and strangers are out of work for more than a year. Jobs have been moving overseas, leaving workers in disarray. Loyalty and hard work is no longer rewarded but disregarded as changes become more prevalent.  Left to pick up the pieces of their lives, their salaries are reduced as they go in search for a new job in order to support their Continue reading “OUR NEW REALITY”