THE BLAME GAME

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I saw you hit a curb one day

and as I looked the other way,

all I heard you say

It’s your fault I did what I did

and I live as I live because

All your life, you found no other way

While playing the blame game.

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Tic Tac Toe

There is no place to go

If you keep playing the blame game

Blaming this for that is not where it’s at

You will never be a diplomat

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Here you go again blaming others all your life

which is a bad habit to keep alive

Accepting responsibility for your own actions

will point you in the right direction

 

Change your projection

Stand up and realize in life at any given time

Things may go wrong

But blaming others will lead to a life

full of rejection

 

Stop, look listen and learn

There is a better way to turn

I know you find it hard to let go

Blaming others for life’s problems is all that you know

 

If you continue to live this way all of your life

It will only lead to a life filled with strife

If you dedicate your life to changing this behavior

You will not feel like a failure

But an individual

who is taking charge of their life

When they stop playing the blame game.

 

This is dedicated to people who find it very difficult to accept responsibility for the problems in their life.  Blaming others is not the answer. There is always hope if you have the desire to change your circumstances.

 

 

High Heel Pumps

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From Merillon ave to Penn Station New York

A little bit of vanity can skew your thinking in order to conform to the trends in society. I remember walking to the train station in high heel pumps in order to catch an early train from Merillon ave to Penn Station New York. My feet were strong in those days, and I never stopped to consider the consequences.  I tried to look as cute as can be in my pointy toes high heels pumps which were a couple of inches off the ground. I worked in the Fashion Industry, and Seventh Avenue, was my destination.

Following the Crowd

I was following the crowd, rushing to and from work without contemplating the result and discomfort of walking in high heel pumps. At that time, it was about walking in style and being in fashion. Who would have thought I would trade in high heel pumps for a pair of sneakers.

A Rude Awakening

One morning as I was walking in those high heel pumps, crowds of people were walking in unison to work. As we were all ready to cross on 34th street,  down I went in the middle of the street. Ouch! I turned around and got up quickly to regain my composure. Of course, not one person turned around to help me. People were in a zombie like state and was following their own agenda.  Years later, I laugh about that experience and thank God I wasn’t seriously hurt. My pride was a little bruised and that was more than enough.  I had a rude awakening about following the trends set in society.

From High heel Pumps to Sneakers

After that day, I traded my high heel pumps, and I started wearing sneakers in order to go to and from work. I didn’t care about the trends, but walking and being in comfort. That was the day I did a complete round about. I started thinking differently about the life I was living and figured out what benefited my lifestyle.

High heel pumps is a metaphor for in this article in reference to how we respond to life happenings everyday. Are you comfortable in your own shoes? Or are you ready to trade in your pair for a pair that sets your own trend?

Lessons Learned

I learned several important lesson that day:

  • It doesn’t pay to look cute if your comfort is at stake.
  • You have to think for yourself and not be a crowd pleaser.
  • Trends come and go and just because it’s a trend, it doesn’t mean you have to follow society’s way of thinking.
  • Set your own trends, be yourself and find out what works for you in all aspects of life
  • Sometimes, you’re on your own, as you look around for a helping hand. Don’t despair, get up dust yourself off and keep moving forward.
  • It’s ok to trade in High Heel Pumps for sneakers even if its only to and from work.
  • It’s all about finding remedies for the choices we make in life otherwise “we will reap whatever we sow.”

 

                                                                                                             Pat Fagan