Checking Out

woman on grassHave you ever felt like checking out of your day to day life for a time? I got to be honest, I have been on an emotional roller coaster ride that had me doing just that for the past couple of months.

I am here physically but not necessarily living in the moment.

After losing my mom last year, and dad this past August, I am in somewhat of a fog. The world is a little more empty without them and they are certainly missed.

CHECKING OUT IS NOT ALWAYS THE ANSWER…

Life at times can be rough, however looking for options to gratify your soul, to make you feel whole again is best.

I have to think about moving forward in order to shake that feeling of loss because as you know life goes on…

If you’ve ever been in my shoes you know exactly how I feel.  If you’re just going through the motion of everyday and not really enjoying your life, you’re really not living.

Nevertheless I’ve been contemplating different ways I can shake the feeling of just wanting to check out for a time because now I think I’m ready to move forward.

But how do I go about moving on when my mind wants to go elsewhere?

So I started listening to mindful meditation. At the beginning for 5 minutes then increasing the time as I mastered each time limit. It helps relax my mind and allows me to focus.

If you’re anything like me, as soon as I get up in the morning, my mind is on any and everything. It’s off to the races of what needs to be done that day and beyond.

This means of course I am not living in the moment. So, meditation definitely helps me  become more focused and in touch with living in the moment.

I also started listening to uplifting christian music which gets my day going in a more positive direction.

It certainly helps lift my spirit from gloom to more optimism knowing no matter what I face God is near.  I have to keep moving forward regardless of life’s pauses and trials.

Finding an oulet

But what I have found recently to really help me find my footing again is a book titled writing down your soul by Janet Conner.

Her book is about activating and listening to a voice within as you write truth about your hurts and pains. You have to learn to listen closely while writing down your soul.

I haven’t really been excited about reading a book for a long time. But this one has me captivated because of what the writer is asking you to do.

It may be this is exactly what I needed at this point of my life. I find myself writing in my journal pouring my heart out while I bleed my thoughts all over the pages.

I needed to find an outlet to express my grief and feelings that was hard to express to even the closest of friends.

This book which has been sitting on my bookshelf for quite some time was just what I needed.

I am taking my time to read it as I digest and hang on every word of this writer.

“Writing down your soul” is about really learning to listen to the voice that resides within as you write down the things in your heart that’s been hidden.

I find myself writing everyday to this voice within bearing my sadness and pain. I have also gone deeper by sharing experiences in my life which were buried all these years that I have now come to terms with….

If you are going through mind blowing decisions, life’s frustrations and pains, I recommend this book. I guarantee you will not be disappointed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Old Age can wait

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Why are some people in a hurry to look and act older than their years? We are all going to grow older one day. So why be in a hurry?

What would life look like if you took on a different mindset?

I for one plan on hanging on as long as possible. So let’s try to change that stinking thinking…Old age can wait.

Life can be timeless and ageless as long as it’s done correctly. You don’t have to wear your mother or fathers wardrobe because you feel that’s how you’re suppose to dress at your current age.

Time has changed and women and men are looking and feeling younger than the previous generation.

I suspect the Millennials and the coming generations are also going to be more mindful about their appearance at every age. From the look of things, they’re already making strides in those areas.

They’re more active and are aggressively changing their approach to old age. They no longer want to look and feel like they are old when they can do things to update their appearance.

Thank God to the changing mindset of the baby boomer generation. They are also rethinking how they want to appear as they continue to age.

Here is a tip for people who are getting older and continue to live in a negative mindset.

Stop saying that you’re old because it will sink into your mind and you will live out the rest of your life that way.

Think more youthful thoughts because you are not what you are on the outside.  Inwardly, you are still that young man or woman you were years ago.

So don’t allow your appearance or your health to defeat you. Think positive thoughts…

Do whatever you can to keep yourself from falling apart….

We all want to look and feel younger as long as possible, so we’re willing to try various methods in order to look more youthful. Whether its medical advances for the fountain of youth, face-lifts, cosmetics or necklifts, todays aging population are focused on staying more youthful for as long as they are able.

Although I agree with some of the methodology, I am not looking forward to having a facelift any time soon.

Have you seen some of our entertainers lately who has gone under the knife? With all that money they have available to invest in plastic surgery, some of them come out looking like the joker on Batman.

So stay tuned…In the future, hopefully there will be better scientific approach of improving your youthful appearance at any age without looking like some doctor made a mistake by making you look like someone from another planet.

Then you also have the show called Botched where some people are addicted to changing their appearance. Unfortunately for them,  sometimes their face or body is so screwed up that the doctors on Botched have to try to repair the damage.

My point is this, if you’re going to do anything to alter your appearance, please use some common sense tactics. There are many ways to improve and maintain an ageless demeanor and believe me, it’s not always about going under the knife.

I have seen some older men and women dress with such good taste.  Fashion can improve your appearance by focusing on your awareness of colors and the latest styles and trends for every season. All you have to do is incorporate some of those trends into your wardrobe and you’re already a winner.

It’s  definitely my intention to follow their lead and never give in to the age factor. Until the grim reaper comes knocking on my door, I will live like a woman who forgot her age.

There are so many new skin products on the market that helps improve the texture of a woman’s skin. Hopefully they will increase the number of products for men as we move into the future.

By the way, I am one of those younger baby boomers who is often mistaken to be 15 to 20 years younger than her actual age. Yeah!

Age is but a number. Dress to impress and live to be ageless.

Please, if you are someone who enjoys sticking to the mindset of old age, don’t take this article the wrong way.  I’m merely exploring other options to the way we think about aging.

Working in the fashion industry for most of my adult life has given me a little more insight to people’s dressing habits.

I’ve been observing people and frankly I pay attention to what they are saying when it comes to their wardrobe. I also take notice of their age while looking at their clothing.

There’s definitely a disconnect. People feel because of their age, they have to dress a certain way. I get it! But you don’t have to dress like your grandparents.

Backpacks

This is just of an example of how people think when they shop for a particular item. The first thing they want to know, is whether or not it’s age appropriate. I understand but any item at any age can be worn as long as it is tastefully done. You have to use that common sense approach.

Who said backpacks are only for children and teenagers? I can’t tell you how many women over the years asked whether or not it was age appropriate. Designers are designing backpacks in leather, fabric and microfiber for women and men in any age group.

The Mindset

Change your mindset. “You’re only as old as you feel.” If you look old on the outside you’ll feel old on the inside. It’s like looking at a mirror of yourself and what you project, is what you get. If you look good, you’ll feel good.

Inside, you are very young at heart. You are still the same person even if the outside shows you’ve aged. So what! Embrace the new you by showing off with a wardrobe that will attract rather than deter.

Men and women who walk with confidence and belief in themselves are ageless at any age.

Tell me…What do you think?

Imagine

diana-simumpande-197805-unsplashA fantasy world exists in my mind as I close my eyes to the complex world around me.

I imagine unspoiled rainforests with lush vegetation and cascading waterfalls untouched by the footprints of man. 

Beaches with waters as blue-green as a turquoise gem.  The grains of sand like the color of an almond.

There was a ripple of excitement which filled my spirit as I strolled along this unknown and untapped sandy beach that stretched for miles in either direction.

A desperation of freedom sweeps across my mind hoping to escape the clutches of this world filled with pain and confusion.

I struggle to find the things in this life which make life more palatable as I envision this life filled with so much inspiration.

I’m temporary released from the stresses of life that continuously invades my space.

Even for a brief moment in time, I find peace and serenity as I visualize this new colorful world.

In this moment I’m no longer bound but free to exist and focus on a world inspired by a different reality.

The purity of life seen in nature consumes my being. My senses are awake and alive using my vivid imagination.

Life could be so effortless from the limits of the concrete jungle where work and making money has kept us in bondage.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Crazies

You see them at work day after day

you try to avoid them,

Somehow they get in your way.

A ball of confusion

Don’t be under the illusion

They’ll ever change

Their ego has a wide range.

Making life at work so unbearable

Your relationship is irreparable.

To the point you want out

Because you just want to shout

But the wrong words may get in the way.

It’s a pity right now you’ll have to stay.

Nowhere to run, nowhere to hide

Responsibility holds the key

You’re all bottled up inside.

One day I hope that you can flee

From the crazies that like to bother thee.

Dandelions

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We are like dandelions blowing in the wind

Breaking free, scattered

Drifting but never really knowing our

True purpose in life

We settle wherever the wind blows

To a life of contentment

With fragments of light in the darkness

Which brings hope joy and happiness

Wishing for dreams that will come true

Where the fragments of light will

Overcome the darkness

Grow stronger like the dandelions

Firmly holding on refusing to be swept up

Wherever the wind blows

But rooted with a sense of purpose.

Free to LIVE

 

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Live your lives like there are no

Tommorrows

Instead of drowning in your sorrows

Find the time 

Enjoy your passion

It’s more than time to take action

Life is short you never know

When we all will have to go

To a place we’ve never been

Live, Love, Laugh

Let’s all begin