Surrender

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In life, when doing your best is just not good enough it’s time to surrender. What’s a person to do?

When you try your best to take care of your family and you feel like you’re being pulled in different directions, surrender. You may feel at times doing your best is just not good enough.

When you’re working hard to build a new or old relationship and your best is just not good enough, surrender.

When you work hard at your job and no matter how much you contribute, your boss is never happy with your work, surrender.

When you’re studying and working hard at school to do your best and your teacher or Professor gives you a low grade, surrender.

To all those struggling to do their best…

What the heck, sometimes your best is just not good enough so go ahead and surrender..

Surrender to the fact that no one is perfect so all you can give is your best.

Have peace knowing there are some things you can’t change and others you can depending on the circumstances.

Surrender, learn to let it go or it will get the best of you if you allow it to destroy your thinking.

Make the necessary changes in order to be effective and happy with who you are and your contributions.

Then surrender and be happy knowing you have done all that you can possibly do in any given situation.

If your best is still not good enough, hang in there and surrender, turn it over to the God above and have serenity knowing you have done your best.

I tried to do my best and if my best is not good enough so be it..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why do we write?

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I have asked myself that question so many times. Why do we write? When I saw this quote, my perspective as to why I write changed.

I believe we all have the ability to change the world. Picking up a pen to write your thoughts in order to inspire change, is just one way to help others take action.

Writing is a creative outlet for people who love to express themselves through the power of the written word. I started writing many years ago for my own benefit. When I was concerned about different aspects of my life, I used writing as an outlet to release the thoughts which consumed my mind.

However I learned a very important lesson as my writing developed, It’s not about me, but the power of the written word to encourage and help others.  My desire was also to share my experiences to reshape the way people think about themselves in relation to the world.

We all can learn from one another whether it’s through poetry, fiction and non fiction, biographies and self development books. Writing is an art form that can inspire change.

So, why do you write? Is it to educate, teach, share life’s lessons, or other reasons? To be honest, it really doesn’t matter as long as you are writing to be inspirational in some capacity. If you can get people to think about their world, and the role they play in it, your job is done.

Another reason why we write is our stinking thinking sometimes gets the best of us and we fall prey to all kinds of negative emotions. The impact is great as it reduces our ability to move forward even for a short time.

Through our thoughts and emotions, writers have the ability to impact our world. We all use different methods and way of getting your attention. However our reasons are vast and as a group, we have made a large dent in how people view their world.

Stop! Think for a moment and ask yourself one question. How can I use my writing to change the world?

 

 

 

 

 

 

RESTLESS

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He was no more than ten years old as he pranced restlessly around the department store. His mother and sister were shopping for a new handbag and his patience was wearing thin. Mom promised to take him out to  dinner when she finished making her purchase. But he just couldn’t stop moving.

I observed them as they approached the register to make their purchase. His mom and sister were talking about the color of their handbag and whether or not they made the right decision. Still restless and uncontrollable, his mother tried to get his attention in order to calm him down. Then out of no where, he blurted out, “I wish I had never been born.”

What on earth would posses a child so young to make such a negative statement? His life experience is only at the beginning stages. Yet, I was totally surprised at his words. Apparently, his poor mother was so shocked, she was speechless. As she continued to make her purchase, you could tell from her expression, her heart was broken. She told her son, she no longer wanted to go out to dinner and they would go home.

I intervened and talked to him about his statement. I also asked him whether or not God would approve of this behavior. After we spoke briefly to one another, I asked him to ask for forgiveness. He was so eager to make things right because he really wanted to make peace with mom and go out to dinner.

I wondered, what was going on in the mind of this child which would cause him to feel this way? Restless, but not enough to go so deep spiritually, cutting to the core of his soul. It bothered me and I continued to think about him all day. We will never know, but God Knows.

Life is so short and everyday it seems like it’s getting shorter. He has so much to live for and yet without thinking, his words got the best of him.

He is a child, but I think about grownups whose life is impacted due to the life they are living. Unfortunately, they’ve seen another side of life, that most of us don’t see everyday. That’s why, it’s so important to pray for others who are suffering through hardships.

We are blessed in so many ways, and yet it takes a small child unknowingly to remind us of the hurts other people are experiencing. It’s so easy to be comfortable in our own life while forgetting to counsel and lift others up who so desperately need our help.

Nugget of Truth: not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interest of the others.

Philippians 2:4

 

My Mother Dearest

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I almost lost my mother recently. After being rushed to the hospital, she was diagnosed with a stroke. Mom’s been battling her illnesses for many years, and little by little its been taking a toll on her body. My mom is a fighter and thank God for it, as she is slowly pulling through this last bombardment to her body. We take so much in life for granted. What if mom didn’t survive this incident? Continue reading “My Mother Dearest”

HERO TO ZERO

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Life is beautiful when you are considered a hero in someone’s eyes. It could be a child, a boss, a girlfriend or boyfriend. A husband or wife, married or single, being a hero can relate to just about anyone in this world. One day life changes and that child becomes a teen, your boss has found another star, and friendships are broken. In a short period of time, you go from hero to zero.

What is a hero by society’s standard? It is someone who is admired for their courage, achievements,  or other qualities, like showing courage through life’s difficulties. A hero can also be an object of extreme admiration.

Do you remember when your kids were younger? Well I do, and they looked up to you like you were a king or queen? Well as most parents know, when they become teenagers, they believe they know everything and you know nothing. The glow in their eyes and admiration diminishes. They no longer feel like you’re their hero.  You’re just mom and dad, who are imperfect beings. In today’s world, kids have learned so much through the internet that they begin to correct you even before high school.

How about working for a company for years where  you are considered one of the best employees. Year after year, you are commended and given awards. Your associates look at you with admiration and intrigue. Then one day things begin to shift in another direction.  Age becomes a factor and there is a new challenger that is being admired. There is always someone younger with more energy who may run cartwheels around you. Then one day your best isn’t good enough as someone else have taken your place. In a short period of time, you go from a hero to zero.

Friendships come and go. You can have a best friend today and sometimes foolishness crushes those relationships. In their eyes whether it is a love relationships or friendships, you can go from a hero to a zero.

These experiences could be a real life changer impacting your life in many ways if you allow it to become a thorn in your side. When you dwell upon where you are instead of where you are going, it will take over your life.

What is required is a new way of thinking. Transforming yourself and your ability to see these experiences in a positive light, will allow you to grow and develop new skills and characteristics. This will promote positive changes in order to move ahead towards the future. Maybe you needed a shift or a prompt to move in another direction. It’s easy to get stuck in one’s world while not growing mentally or spiritually. Sometimes I believe God has to give us a little nudge in order to wake us up from our mindlessness.

Nuggets of Truth: “We sometimes need a shakeup in order to wake up.”

                                       Pat Fagan