Tis the season to be what?

christmas gift2Are we really thinking jolly? Have we all lost our minds?  The Christmas season can be jolly if we change our way of thinking.

I’ve worked in retail during the holidays for many years, and believe me when I express that human behaviors are not conducive to having a happy time. People fight over parking spaces and who’s next in line. I had a customer who was at least 80 years old, in poor health and felt obligated to purchase 50 different gifts for her family located in different states. If that’s not enough, a lot of men who have no idea what to buy or even have the desire to join the madness will pick up anything just to keep peace in their homes.  The common thread from men year after year is a desire to please even knowing their loved one will return the item as they have done in previous years. Baby carriages with infants less than a month old and children crying as they walk through the stores. People stressed out from all this delusion with lists upon lists of gifts they have to purchase.

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Hustling and bustling through the malls decorated lavishly, Christmas music playing to set the mood and digital billboards drawing ones attention to sales upon sales to entice the shoppers. Tired people everywhere waiting on lines with several items hoping that they made the right choices. Caught up in a whirlwind of spending, setting them financially backwards for another year. Gifts are wrapped and delivered, finally Christmas day arrives with beautiful packages wrapped under the tree. Stress is somewhat relieved by the smiles of loved ones as they open their package.  In retail, the day after Christmas is our biggest day of returns. Some of us are not happy with our presents. Whatever happened to just being thankful?

So what’s the point?  I have come to realize people’s hearts are in the right place but a feeling of obligation clouds their judgement. Folks are spending money they don’t even have in order to make their loved ones happy. Some of us are looking for love in all the wrong places. Most consumers are going through the motion but are not entirely ecstatic. I am not a Grinch, I love Christmas just like everybody else but I believe we are going about it in the wrong way. Keeping it simple and not going overboard during the holidays would be my recommendations. Reduce your list and consider a grab bag alternative. Focus on the things that are really important and get rid of the guilt you feel if you don’t buy someone a gift. Showing love and kindness all through the year is more important than how much you spend on a gift during the holidays. Give to others who are more in need and do it in the name of someone you care about. Think of valuable ways you can share Gods blessing. Why do we keep giving to those who are already blessed with so much more?

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Christmas or the season of Christmas is about reflecting on the birth of Jesus, our lord and savior. He is the greatest gift to mankind and therefore, our focus for the season should be on what he represents. Love and hope for a better future and saving those who believe from their sins. Going forward, let’s rethink how we go about celebrating Jesus’ birth.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

John 3:16

 

 

 

 

REALITY CHECK

reality check 2Reality is the state or quality of being real thus clarifying the state of your life. Changing your reality is more than just working towards chasing your dreams. It’s also about an expression of thought and mind; a wake up in consciousness of the world you live in. We all live in different realities or situations around the globe. Some people live in turmoil while others live in splendor. Waking up to the truth about these other realities will give you a broader perspective, and if possible, direct you to other areas where you can really make a difference in changing your world. Continue reading “REALITY CHECK”

LIVING WITH PASSION

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Recently, I saw a program on PBS featuring Eric Clapton in concert. I never knew anything about his music but suddenly I was captivated by his songs and the passion in which he sang. Hanging on his every word with joy touched my soul, Mr. Clapton sang the song called Tears in Heaven. He gives through his music and we receive the benefits. If you ever want to get a glimpse of what living with passion and dedication is all about, check out people who sing for a living, play sports, musicians, dancers, or anyone who is truly committed to their intention. I was in awe as he drew me into the moment. His dedication to his art all these years is truly inspiring for all who attends his concerts. Continue reading “LIVING WITH PASSION”

SPEAKING LIFE

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Before a word is uttered on my tongue,

Help me lord to overcome,

 Let me think before I speak,

when speaking life to those I meet,

I am truly sorry for the words I’ve said

In anger to others

Who needs to be led,

Help me know what to say

when my words go astray

and indignation comes my way,

Teach me your truth,

While I read your good book,

I will continue to take a closer look.

I’ll stand in your peace

By not being a beast,

Please allow my love for others to increase

Search me, O Lord, and know my heart

For you have known me from the start,

Cleanse and change me,

from all that I am,

You know my name and that’s where I’ll stand,

In silence, meditating and listening to your word,

with God right beside me, never being deterred

Create a clean heart in me

to be all I can be,

So my words won’t defeat me,

for I totally trust in thee

I choose to speak life for the rest of my life,

Believing and hoping to live a life of less strife.

WANTS VS NEEDS

fashionHave you ever had a strong desire to purchase an item that you felt you couldn’t live without? Well, for many of us that is a regular occurrence. I remember a time when I saw a particular coat in a store window on my travel to work everyday. It was a fashion style that was  popular among the ladies and of course I wanted it so badly that common sense went right out the window. The price tag was pretty steep but who cares. I made it my purpose in life to buy this coat of many colors and as I made my way into the store one day, money in hand, I finally made my purchase. I was beaming with joy and in that moment, I felt like a million bucks. Sadly, in all the years I had this beautiful coat, I wore it once as I strutted and styled down the streets of New York. It  was a temporary fix, a moment of pleasure and like most things in our life, out of sight, out of mind. Years later, while sorting through my closets, I stumbled upon that beautiful expensive coat and decided to donate it to charity. Continue reading “WANTS VS NEEDS”